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post #11 of 23 Old 05-04-2012, 12:36 AM Thread Starter
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I never said she should spend every waking minute with the horse? And it was not intended as a flame, or a criticism. Simply a statement of fact. If you ignore a horse because its ill, you shouldn't have a horse. If you only follow the directions of the vet, then you've done what you were told by someone more experienced than you, and have no reason to feel poorly about yourself.

I feel bad purely because she looks so sad, I followed vet instructions yes but I care about her so much and don't want her to look sad!

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post #12 of 23 Old 05-04-2012, 12:51 AM
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I never said she should spend every waking minute with the horse? And it was not intended as a flame, or a criticism. Simply a statement of fact. If you ignore a horse because its ill, you shouldn't have a horse. If you only follow the directions of the vet, then you've done what you were told by someone more experienced than you, and have no reason to feel poorly about yourself.
No but if you know the OP from her posts she loves her horse very much and spends a LOT of time with her. Her horse then got ill and she was told she can't take her out and do all the stuff she usually does so it basically went from lots of love to like she said, nothing. She wouldn't ignore her horse, that isn't how the OP comes off to me.

And yeah I know you weren't criticizing her but doesn't mean it doesn't sting her or come off as rude. But she still feels bad about it because she cares about Curly, her horse, a lot. As any good horse owner would, she feels things could be better for her horse.
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post #13 of 23 Old 05-04-2012, 01:31 AM
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So you quit riding her? Or you quit riding, and grooming, and spending time with her? Because if you started ignoring her because she was sick, then you ARE a horrible horse person. But if you only stopped riding her, then you have nothing to be ashamed of, and you've done exactly what you were told to do, and what your horse needed.
Completely totally uncalled for and really really rude! She feels bad enough not being able to do anything with her horse don't make it worse. I know you didn't mean to be rude but it definitely came off that way.
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post #14 of 23 Old 05-04-2012, 01:39 AM
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post #15 of 23 Old 05-04-2012, 02:01 AM
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My mom always gets on my case for the way I say things.

Let me see if I can rephrase to be more clearly understood.

When you feel bad for doing what your vet instructed you to do, you don't do yourself, (or your horse) any favors, and in fact could make the situation much worse by letting your emotions get in the way of what is best for your horse. If you were told not to work the horse, then you can't work the horse, plain and simple. You are doing what is best for the horse, and if it makes her sad, its a bummer, but you should try to feel good about doing the best you can for your horse.

Now, if you're ignoring your horse because she's ill (which I'm not saying you are, just giving an example), then you are a bad horse owner. In my mind, there is a big difference between 'not riding' and 'ignoring'. You had said that you felt like the worst horse owner ever, and this was meant to show what a bad horse owner might do.

In no way did I mean to imply that you're a bad horse owner, and I'm sorry that my post made you feel worse. It was meant to impart a little perspective on your very emotional situation.
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I think OP just needed some encouragement that what happened wasnt her fault. Curly still knows that she is loved. She won't forget all you've done for her or the time spent together. Just do what you can to remind her she still matters to you, because obviously she does.
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Thankyou for rephrasing that calicokatt, I realise that you were not out to insult me! It is emotional as I love her lots, I did contact the vet and she said because she blood tests were negative I would be allowed to take her out, brush her and take her for a very little walk so I did that and we both feel much much better!

Thankyou very much for your support everyone, it makes me feel better to know that im not a bad owner, I just had an odd moment!

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I think OP just needed some encouragement that what happened wasnt her fault. Curly still knows that she is loved. She won't forget all you've done for her or the time spent together. Just do what you can to remind her she still matters to you, because obviously she does.
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Thankyou! Your very correct, after a few hours of brushing cuddling walking and sharing carrots I beleive we are good, she was much happier when I left.

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post #19 of 23 Old 05-04-2012, 05:17 AM
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Aww you haven't!! She just misses you is all, probably wishes she were all better so you could ride her again.

You're a fab horse owner, don't feel any less than fabulous! She'll love getting loved on though; will definitely cheer her up :)
Exactly!!

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Exactly!!
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