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    09-20-2011, 04:43 PM
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Yearling
Feeling a little depressed today.

I found a home for Whisper. A nice family with a couple young girls. She's only going about 10 min away, but I can't help but be really sad that she's leaving. She has been my heart horse that I have spent the last couple years just loving on because she wasn't trained to ride. I know it's for the best. She'll actually get used, since I think the entire family is shorter than I am, so I know she won't be too small for them.

The man that bought Persia last weekend also called her trainer today because he got bucked off, which I was really hoping wouldn't happen. Apparently he didn't do any groundwork with her at all, just threw the saddle on and tried to go for a ride. Her trainer clearly explained that she needed to be worked before hand, so it could have been avoided but I still feel bad because she was going to such a good home.

I'm just having a bad day. Even though I rode my new horse and showed her the barrel pattern for the first time today, which she did pretty good at, she has really nice tight turns, the negative just outweigh the possitive today and I'm feeling a little blue.
     
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    09-20-2011, 05:16 PM
  #2
Yearling
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Originally Posted by Whisper22    
I found a home for Whisper. A nice family with a couple young girls. She's only going about 10 min away, but I can't help but be really sad that she's leaving. She has been my heart horse that I have spent the last couple years just loving on because she wasn't trained to ride. I know it's for the best. She'll actually get used, since I think the entire family is shorter than I am, so I know she won't be too small for them.
Well at least she has found a good home. Do not be ashamed of feeling sad, I think anyone can understand that. Onyx previous owners cried when they gave him over to me, but they understood it was for the best for all.

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Originally Posted by Whisper22    
The man that bought Persia last weekend also called her trainer today because he got bucked off, which I was really hoping wouldn't happen. Apparently he didn't do any groundwork with her at all, just threw the saddle on and tried to go for a ride. Her trainer clearly explained that she needed to be worked before hand, so it could have been avoided but I still feel bad because she was going to such a good home.
Well, honestly some people just need to learn on their own. It doesn't mean Persia is a bad horse, it means her new owner was ignorant at the time. He obviously learned that he can't do that. You were honest and straightforward and held up your end of the deal. He knew what he was buying and what the risks were, so he has no one to blame but himself, not you or Persia.

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Originally Posted by Whisper22    
I'm just having a bad day. Even though I rode my new horse and showed her the barrel pattern for the first time today, which she did pretty good at, she has really nice tight turns, the negative just outweigh the possitive today and I'm feeling a little blue.
I am so sorry you are having a bad day. But I am glad to hear your new horse is doing well at the barrel pattern. You will eventually connect with your new horse and it will help you to feel better. Whisper and Persia will forever hold a place in your heart, but your new horse will also help to ease your pain and she, too, will earn a place.

Keep your head up and know you did the right thing!!
     
    09-21-2011, 04:38 PM
  #3
Started
I know how you feel. Im in the process of selling my horse. Deep down I know it is the right thing to do for me at this point, but everytime I think about hiim not being in my life I reconsider. I had someone look at him last week and when they were riding him, it tore me up inside. I never see my horse from the ground because i'm always on him, and I thought, wow, I have a really nice horse, why am I selling him? I know if a few years when things settle down I will regret my decision, but the reality is, I just can't do it right now.

Its natural to feel sad when we let go of somethinng we love so much. Horses are our "outs" and they become a big part of our lives. All you can think about is that he does have a good home, and that matters so much in today's market.
     
    09-21-2011, 05:01 PM
  #4
Yearling
Thank you for the kind words. I do know that she is going to a good home, I will just miss her so much. If I kept her for my own selfish reasons, she would just sit.

As for Persia, it turns out the guy that bought her was wanting to bring her back. I feel really bad, but that's just not something I can do. I was completely honest about her and her trainer was even more so. He just didn't have the time to listen and ignored the instructions that her trainer had to rush through. I should have known then, but I was really happy for her and where she was going. Now I'm worried that he will be set on getting rid of her, but he's not going to have a trainer like I did to help him sell her. Who knows where she'll end up. I am perfectly willing to help him sell if he needs me too because I am still getting calls on her, but now she's at least an hour away. My trainer is going to offer to go up there and work out the weeks of training he probably undid, but it will cost him. I just hope he listens next time.

Am I a horrible person for not taking her back?
     
    09-21-2011, 11:30 PM
  #5
Yearling
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Originally Posted by Whisper22    

Am I a horrible person for not taking her back?
Absolutely not.

You were not hiding anything from the man. He just learned a valuable lesson: Pride comes before the fall.

How could you have known it would happen? You couldn't.

I would offer to help him sell her, but that's it. If you are REALLY concerned with where she will go, you can consider taking her back and reselling her, but until then, I would make him do it. It is his fault for refusing to listen, not yours.
     
    09-22-2011, 01:18 AM
  #6
Yearling
Thanks lakotababii. That's what everyone has been telling me, but really no one I can turn to for advice has had to deal with this sort of thing, so I've been second guessing my decision.

I havn't even talked to the guy myself yet. He has only tried contacting my trainer but only talked to her husband, so I'm waiting to hear what she has to say when she finally talks to him herself. I don't know why he hasn't tried calling me but I'm not complaining either. I did get a call from a mutual friend, that I didn't know about before. A lady that buys and sells horses that hurd about the incident and apparently offered to call me and ask me to take back the horse herself. I'm pretty sure the only reason she did that though was because she has a horse she wants him to buy and she thought she could guilt me into giving him his money back. It was all in a voicemail though, so I've decided to just ignore it.

Once I know exactly what he's wanting to do, I'll step in and offer him what I can to help, if that's needed.
     

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