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post #11 of 16 Old 05-15-2012, 12:11 AM
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Originally Posted by Daisy25 View Post

Sounds like you are experiencing some serious anxiety issues.

It may or may not be due to horses - it can be as simple as a chemical imbalance in your brain. It's very common and happens to a lot of people.

Before you quit horses and / or a career path - why not visit a professional and see if there is anything that can be done to help?

You may find that an anti-anxiety med makes a world of difference!

Good luck!
This is exactly what I was going to say even before I read it!! Anxiety! If it was not the fields it would be something else. Get balanced and you will notice all the difference in the world!!!
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It definitely is!

But I am unforunately sad to inform that I am no longer going to be working at the barn (had nothing to do with my anxiety/issues with the fields). A "falling out" of sorts with the BO

But good news is I will be barn hunting these last few weeks of school (yeah, I have to go back but it is what it is). I also got a job which starts monday night. Pays $8/hour which is sweet, and just in time because I'll need money for the summer. Especially for college stuff and just because it's summer and I want money haha.

But rest assured I will still be working with my anxiety, even with a new barn. I want to get lessons and especially if I want to ride in college I don't want to look silly, I want to look like I've been riding for 9 years! Plus maybe with some of the money I get from working I was thinking of maybe pursuing some shows in the summer (if the barn has any)!

I think I cried a total of 4 hours today because of the issue. I am exhausted and drained!

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post #13 of 16 Old 05-15-2012, 09:29 PM
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Originally Posted by jfisher256 View Post
I actually had to stop myself at one point writing the original post. What am I thinking? Quitting being with horses, this is what I want to do and one silly fear like taking horses out of fields is going to keep me away from what I want to do for the rest of my life? No way! I'm going to walk into the barn with confidence from now on, tell myself it's not that big of a deal, because it really isn't. Then I'm going to go to college and when I graduate I will own my own horses.
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Fear is a funny thing! I too love horses but sometimes if I think about things too much or hear things that have happened to people like falling off, getting bitten or kicked then I question myself like "Why are you doing this?" But so far I can always talk myself out of it and continue to ride which of course includes getting my horse out of the pasture....I just take the lead rope with me and shake it at any horse that looks like it might start trouble with me. LOL So far not one horse has bothered me. LOL
That's exactly what I do too. I ask myself "And now why are you getting all worked up over this? Is that helpful?" Sometimes I talk to my horse but it's really all for me


OP moving on is a great thing. I didn't know how burned out I was at my previous barn/job until I moved. Pure bliss, I couldn't be happier. Well I could.. my horse could be here. But hey, you get what you can take.

Congrats on the new job!!!

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When I was leasing the ex-racer he never wanted to come out of the field and all the other horses were all over me! Like "OOH pick me!" they're like a bunch of little kids haha! But I would always call him and talk to him and he would just stare at me as if it's going to make me come to him!

I'm not exactly sure what my fear of fields stemmed from. I've never had any real issues with fields. Yeah they like to push and shove and be the first ones out.

and about the job-thanks, it'll be exciting! I think a job will help me keep my mind off of everything I've dealt with today and just look ahead. I graduate high school in a few weeks, I've already taken all of only two finals I had to take, I'm definitely finding another barn to ride at, and I'll be going to college in August!

So definitely looking ahead. Four weeks goes by pretty quickly (even one week goes by quick and this week is almost over!), I have a job starting monday..so yeah.

So the new job, summer in a few weeks, and my parents are keeping/helping me stay positive! :)

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post #15 of 16 Old 05-15-2012, 10:48 PM
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Wow, this is somewhat of a relief, my husband tells me all the time nothing is going to happen when I go get a horse out. Today I had to get all 5 of our horses out by myself for the farrier. Usually my husband is there to help and I just hold them for the farrier I wish I had the confidence to walk into the herd like he does but I always take the long ways around lol. Our horses love to hang at the gate which trying to pull one out, with one trying to sneak past is very nerve racking, although I will say that I worry more about doing it, then when I'm actually in the process of doing it. This moring before my husband left we went out and put halters on all of them to try and cut down some of the anxiety and of course what happens two of them get into a little scuffle, with all of them around, so there is this scramble from the others which adds to the confusion and although normally I would have been a little terrified I actually stood up to the one causing the problem and chased him off, it just sort of happened I guess I'm getting a little desensitized myself.
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Chandra-that seems to be me in most cases, even things like class projects that I have to present. I worry about it all day up until the class comes and I get so nervous and worked up, but when I actually get up and present the project it's really not that bad. It's just the thought of something going wrong during that works me up. That's how I've kind of been with certain fields, but the other fields I just want nothing to do with lol.

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