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    09-05-2009, 03:26 PM
Originally Posted by sandy2u1    
I would look at it an hourly wage type deal. If you were making $6 an hour for 5 hours then that would be $30 a lesson. It sounds fair to me.
That's what I was thinking. Actually I think their lessons might cost more than that so I might be getting a deal! :)

I think what I'm going to do is still offer to help with some things at the first barn. They have events that they go to and pass out info about who they are and what they do, and they've said they need people who can go to the events and do that for them. So I think I will tell them I'll do a couple events but I can't come out regularly to help at the barn.

Hopefully my mom won't give me a hard time about this. That's part of the reason I've felt bad about it, because my mom has always told me if you tell someone you'll do something then you've made a commitment to them and you need to do it whether you want to or not.
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    09-05-2009, 11:31 PM
So I am going out to this new barn tomorrow to talk about what hours I might be able to work. Hopefully the hours they have avalible will fit well with my class schedule. I'd like to be able to get enough hours to ride a couple of times a week. *fingers crossed*

I told my mom about this whole situation and I found out that she actually took leassons at this barn a long time ago! I thought that was pretty cool considering I didn't even know my mom ever took lessons.
    09-06-2009, 10:06 PM
Well I went out to the new barn today. It seems like it'll work out, but I thought the other one was going to work out and I got all excited, only to be let down. I'm going out tomorrow to start working officially. As of right now I'll be getting to ride as part of my work, because the horses need to be exercised, and will start lessons in a few weeks. So we'll see how things go.

I still have to email the other barn to tell them I won't be coming out anymore. I really don't know what to say. I feel like they'll be mad at me and I don't like poeple being mad at me :/

One thing I love about this new place is that it's between my house and school so matter where I'm coming from it's close.
    09-07-2009, 03:35 AM
Green Broke
The way I see it is a lot of places/barns/schools/stables take advantage of peoples love for horses and it actually really annoys me. I used to go somewhere for lessons where girls would work for hours everyday and the best they got with to be at the end of a trail ride to make sure no one fell off.

I think people should be paid or swapped with services equivalent to their work. If volunteers weren't around then the barns would have to pay for workers to clean, groom and ride horses.

I would tell the other barn the truth. Send them an email saying that while you like horses you were looking for an opportunity where you could ride as part of your work, or where you work services were swapped for the ability to ride. Lots of people are "horse crazy" and it really drives me mad when people take advantage of peoples passion.

Good luck :)
    09-07-2009, 04:30 AM
Thumbs up aww

Awww...I am sorry that it didnt work out... but if you really want to ride you should keep on trying
    09-07-2009, 02:41 PM
Yay! I'm so happy for you! It sounds like your new barn is just what you are looking for. Try not to feel to guilty about not helping at the other barn...remember you started this whole thing so you could have a chance to ride. Something tells me though, that when you get back in the saddle, you're going to forget all about that guilt . I have to agree with Saskia on what to say to the other barn. Then I wouldn't give it another thought. They will find another volunteer. Horse chores are hard work....you deserve to get to ride if you put in the work. Have fun at your new barn and let us know how it goes.
    09-08-2009, 12:01 AM
Agh!!! I am getting so frustrated with all of this!! I don't think this new barn will work out either, but for entirely different reasons. They are letting me ride but I think I was so happy about that, that I over-looked some other things. This new barn is not in very good shape. There are a lot of horses on a very small amount of property. The stalls are very small and the horses that are in the stalls don't ever get turned out.

I feel like maybe I'm being picky but I'm not sure I want to stay at this new place. I just don't feel comfortable with the shape its in. At the same time I'm not sure I could find another place that I will get to ride as much as I would at this place. I don't even know if I could find another place that will let me ride in exchange for work. I don't know if I should just keep going at this place and deal with it or if I should try to find someplace else to go.
    09-08-2009, 02:05 AM
I think you should give it a little more time. They are trading riding for work...maybe it's just that they are that understaffed. At least stay with it long enough to find out what they are all about.

Are the horses in good condition physically?
    09-08-2009, 02:48 PM
I haven't taken a good look at all of the horses but some of them are skinny.

I am going to try to stick with it for now but the more I go there, the more the place just feels off. They are understaffed (only one person working there as far as I know) but the fact that they have so many horses when the place is so run down just seems wrong to me. It seems like they just keep getting more horses and building more tiny stalls to cram them all in.

Like I said I'll keep going but in the mean time I think I'm going to keep looking and see if I can find any place else that will let me work to ride. If I have the option I'd really like to go someplace I feel more comfortable.

One more thing I wanted to ask: If someone is coming out to your barn for the first time to ride do you just put them up on a horse and walk away? Both places I've been to did that and I thought it was a little odd. I mean, I told them I know how to ride but how do they know I'm telling the truth? I would think if it's some person you don't know, you keep an eye on them until you know for sure that they know what they're doing.
    09-09-2009, 01:07 AM
I'd say for the most part that putting someone on a horse, not knowing for sure if they can ride or not, is a very very bad idea. My sister has a horse though, that we can put anybody on. It doesn't matter if they can ride or not...he takes very good care of his rider. Where did you ride? Was it in an arena? Also, is that a rescue barn? If it is, maybe it's just that the need for horses to be rescued has caused this problem. Because of the economy, there is a greater need than ever to rescue horses. I'm sure a lot of places are getting overwhelmed. Don't give up....try and help.

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