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post #1 of 24 Old 03-02-2009, 07:07 PM Thread Starter
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first true vent...

So as I have more or less been posting, I have been posting on and off about these ortho surgeries I have had to go thru because of some problems I have been having. Gone thru a lot of ups and downs a lot of pain, a lot of frustration and have used the shoulders of many people over the years over this.
In a way I really do feel selfish. I am getting upset over something that is absolutely ridiculous compared to some of the challenges people face every day but I feel that this time, I am going to let myself get upset and mad because I have quite honestly had enough.

As of 2 weeks ago today, I've officially had 10 different operations to correct this hip problem along with re-correcting my wrist. I have 2 more appts this week to find out what the ultimate ending on this is going to be and I ultimately find that I'm anxious about it and well as posted, upset.

There are going to have to be some changes in the near future including horses. Going to have to completely remove jumping out of the equasion. Those hopes and dreams I had of Cobalt and I are going to have to be revemped to strict flatwork. My career at this point is also on the line and still not sure at the point where that itself is going to finish or direction it will take.

I guess I will be back in the morning with some more news once I get back home...thanks for reading...
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post #2 of 24 Old 03-02-2009, 07:31 PM
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That really sucks, I am sorry you have been going through such a hard time. Maybe you can take up Dessage?? since you might plan on doing a lot of flat work you can rule the dressage world? lord knows Colbolt would look fab in white polos hehe. I hope things only get better from here on out, I am also glad you vented because it's better to just let things out then let them get all bottled up. Sorry if I didn't help much... I was going to suggest driving but after watching Spyder video maybe that isn't such a good idea.

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I've have always, since first hearing your story, felt the deepest sympathies for you but never did tell you becasue you are such a stong person. And I also didn't want you thinking that I ONLY felt sorry for you and nothing else.

You are an amazing person and handle the very tough situation that you are in so very well. I honestly can't say that I would be such a happy go lucky person if I were in your shoes. Everytime I see you, you have a huge, brilliant smile on your face and never seem to even think about the terrible things that have happened to you.

You are NOWHERE near hardly ever talk about your hardships. You handle them like a mature adult. But you do need to talk and you to need to cry, no matter how stong a person you are it does take a toll on you.

I'm sorry I can't do more for you, but please know that you have NOT had an easy life and you are NOT selfish. I think about you alot, and when I do I'm thinking what an amazing, tough person you are.
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you guys are making cry for God's sakes
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post #5 of 24 Old 03-02-2009, 08:01 PM
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CacheDawnTexas, I know that I have not personally known you in the time that I have spent on these boards but I have come to enjoy reading the advice and information you so willingly share with others.

If you ever need anyone to talk to, you know we are all here for you no matter how big or small the issue is, every single one of us would be willing to lend an ear or a shoulder. Sometimes it is okay to just let it all go. I am very sorry to hear about all of your operations! That must be very stressful.

I would like to shed some light on the situation, I hope it helps. Cobalt is a gorgeous horse and I think he would look LOVELY in the dressage ring. Maybe you can focus on taking him to the top in dressage? With a project like that, you could focus on perfecting every little thing without being pressured to do something else at the same time.

Or, are you interested in Natural Horsemanship? Once again, I apologize with not being very familiar of your background and your experiences with Cobalt, but maybe you would enjoy going through the Parelli journey? Spirithorse recently recommended that I try it with my boy as a way to build an even stronger relationship. I am very excited to get started, it looks like a lot of fun and opens tons of doors in terms of things to focus on.

I know that that probably did not help you in any way, but maybe you can find a niche somewhere that will be better on your body physically!

I really hope you feel better and remember, we are all always going to be here for you!
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**hugs** I'm not real sure what to say, but want you to know that we are here to listen whenever you need us. I don' think you are at all selfish! I don't know the story, but I know that it's not selfish to be upset about things that you want not working out..

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Kelly, from the first time I saw your x-rays and then the surgery link you had... I honestly thought... HOLY COW!!! You've got more nuts and bolts than the hardware store!!!

Now, you've handled it with grace and dignity. Kudos for that. But I must confess that I know you're human! Let it out and we'll be here no matter the outcome!!!

Let the sun shine when it's time and let the rain fall when it's time.

(((hugs))), prayers, and all my best Kel!!!

Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Don't be afraid or discouraged by the size of the task, for the Lord God, my God, is with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.

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post #8 of 24 Old 03-02-2009, 09:27 PM
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I've been through several wrist surgeries and I'm still having serious problems. I feel your pain and frustration. You are an amazing person for fighting through! Keep you chin up, and know that we are all praying for you every day. I have learned a lot about riding and horses in general just from reading your posts, and I have used a lot of your suggestions in my own riding, with great results! Cobalt is a wonderful boy, and I'm sure that if you chose to, he would take you to the top in dressage. God bless
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post #9 of 24 Old 03-03-2009, 12:39 AM
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Kelly!!! *hugs!!!* Oh dear.. you are NOT selfish!!! You have been through a ton, Kelly, and I'm always amazed at how well you are doing.
Heck, you came out and took photos of my horse less than a week after surgery .. I am not sure I would even be out of bed. And you were walking great!! You are such a string person and I'm astounded at it.
You are always so positive and absolutely amazing... like Tiff said, you always have this huge smile on your face and are so positive.
Do not feel badly for having to take some YOU time!!!
I am so sorry to hear that you might have to give up jumping.. but there is still plenty to do with your amazing boy!! He's going to be an amazing horse - maybe we could teach our black beauties to drive! Think of how much fun that would be!!
Kelly, you are more than welcome to cry on my shoulder, literally or figuratively... (of course I don't have my phone on me right now or I'd already be on it!! stupid me left it at Rich's...)

Kelly, you are an amazing person. But you are human!! It is absolutely okay to get upset from time to time!! If you need me for anything, hun, all you have to do is ask!!

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post #10 of 24 Old 03-03-2009, 08:22 AM
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*HUGS* You are a very strong person to go through this much. You know that we are all here for you. Best wishes in your upcoming appointments

It's not the will to win, but the will to prepare to win that makes the difference.
- Paul "Bear" Bryant (Former college football coach)
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