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    01-04-2012, 04:01 AM
Found THE one... but can't have him :[

So, About a month ago,
I tried out a 11 yr old quarab gelding. He is slightly green, and can be spooky/energetic. His owner passed away, and a friend is looking for a good home for him.

The first time I met him, he put his head in my hands and I just knew that instant that he was THE ONE. (I have tried out plenty of horses in the past, and no spark. Even with my current mare, I never had that instant spark, even though I love her!)

The first day, I just brushed him and took him for a little walk. He was the sweetest boy. He spooked a little bit, but it was perfectly fine.

I went again, and rode him. I was really nervous to ride him, but he was great! They only had a round pen to try him in, and the ground was really hard, so I could only walk/trot, and do little circles. When I was on him, it was like a dream I can't even describe, just perfect.

The owner emailed me later and said they took him on a trail ride, and she feels he is too energetic/bold for me. That he was very aware of his surroundings and hard to handle at first.

Reading that email... my heart just collapsed. I wanted to bawl my eyes out.
He is just my absolute dream horse, and I know that I will have no problem with riding him. I also don't mind working with him alot on the ground before riding.
I think that maybe since I was really nervous when I test rode, that she assumes I am not that great of a rider.
When I ride at home though, I am very confident and calm when a horse bolts or spooks.

I emailed her back and told her how much I loved him, and to keep me updated if he gets any better.

I've never been in a situation where I've found the perfect horse, but can't have him. I can tell you now, it is a terrible feeling.
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    01-04-2012, 04:11 AM
Can you make a deal with her to work with a trainer and him? Then she'd have peace of mind and you'd have your horse AND competent help
    01-04-2012, 04:15 AM
Honestly? Go and ride it, ride it, ride it. THEN you'll know if its the 'one'.. everything happens for a reason, and he may need to go to someone else, and you may find another.
    01-04-2012, 04:16 AM
^^ That is a really good idea! I will have to ask her about that. I don't have a trainer as of now, but I am starting lessons with a new instructor that is nearby where the horse is located right now. Maybe she would let me take him in a few lessons with an instructor to see how it goes?
    01-04-2012, 04:18 AM
Honestly? Go and ride it, ride it, ride it. THEN you'll know if its the 'one'.. everything happens for a reason, and he may need to go to someone else, and you may find another.
I don't know if the owner wants me to ride him. She said in her email for me to contact her in a few months to see how he's doing.
Also, if she doesn't want me to ride on the trail, the only other place to ride is a small round pen.

I agree that everything happens for a reason, but I'm not going to give up without a fight first! Just need a game plan first though :} haha
    01-04-2012, 07:08 AM
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Fight for it! I'm no good at giving good advice in this situation, but maybe there is a way you can work out with the owners of your One and Only. I fought for mine (and won!), so you can too. :) When I first met the horse of my dreams, we were both too green for each other, but I trained hard for a year and a half, he was being trained meanwhile, then I had to overcome some financial difficulties and reason with his owner (a VERY stubborn man) to lower his price...but now, since December 2011, he's mine. So don't hesitate and go for your dream - if you two are meant for each other, then anything can happen to bring you together! :)

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