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        04-23-2010, 11:58 AM
      #1
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    Friendship vent

    Okay so I have this friend I been friend with for years. She constantly tells me what I am doing wrong with my riding etc. Also not only that but she is nagging me because I like horse racing. I mean I understand the horses are way to young about this. But I like it so why should I care what she says?
    Its stupid ugh! Not only that but she is nagging me and nagging me because I am going to breed my horse.
    She acts like a know-it-all but pretends to not see it for herself.

    I have been around horses longer then she has as well I am older and its anoying
    Sorry I just had to vent.
    This is horse-related so that's why its here
         
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        04-23-2010, 12:09 PM
      #2
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    Maybe your friend has some good points. Why not simply discuss the issues like adults and then agree to disagree if it comes to that.

    Just because you are older and have been around horses longer does not mean you know more than she does.
         
        04-23-2010, 12:26 PM
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    Originally Posted by Alwaysbehind    
    Maybe your friend has some good points. Why not simply discuss the issues like adults and then agree to disagree if it comes to that.

    Just because you are older and have been around horses longer does not mean you know more than she does.
    Thats not the point. She nags me about liking horse racing. Its my choice. Not hers.
         
        04-23-2010, 12:27 PM
      #4
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by Alwaysbehind    
    Maybe your friend has some good points. Why not simply discuss the issues like adults and then agree to disagree if it comes to that.

    Just because you are older and have been around horses longer does not mean you know more than she does.
    True. Why don't you try to not be upset and hear her out.. you could end up learning a thing or two if you just try.

    ETA: this is regarding the riding/breeding thing. Personally, I like it when people who may not know as much as me try and tell me about my riding.. just because they may not know as much doesn't mean they don't know basic posture.
         
        04-23-2010, 12:28 PM
      #5
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by Alwaysbehind    
    Maybe your friend has some good points. Why not simply discuss the issues like adults and then agree to disagree if it comes to that.

    Just because you are older and have been around horses longer does not mean you know more than she does.
    I agree. Your friend may have some good opinions. I'd be very grateful to have a friend that can engage in thoughtful discussions about horses!

    Although the racing industry is cleaning itself up in recent years, it still has a long way to go. For as many good people as there are in the racing world, there are a lot of bad ones too. Not all the horses are trained and cared for properly, nor do they all have a quality retirement. I'm sure your friend has some valid concerns.

    As for breeding, perhaps your friend is concerned for the health of your mare, or the quality of the offspring?
         
        04-23-2010, 12:28 PM
      #6
    Green Broke
    She's probably just trying to help you out. It's much easier to see what someone else is doing wrong than realize it on yourself.

    My sister-in-law will yell across the arena at me, Hands Together, Heels Down, Fingers Closed, etc.... and she's right every single time. She's not being rude or mean, just trying to help me fix my bad habits and I figure her help is free, I'm PAYING for my instructor, so I'd like to fix my small problems and have my instructor work on bigger issues with me rather than paying her a small fortune to tell me the exact same things!
         
        04-23-2010, 12:29 PM
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    Originally Posted by kmacdougall    
    True. Why don't you try to not be upset and hear her out.. you could end up learning a thing or two if you just try.
    She doesnt know me in person. I understand what she says but what she says doesn't matter to me. She can't tell me that my riding isnt that good. When she didnt know me when I started riding or when I first had Babee I got to were I was jumping 2'6 fences and showing 2'0 shows.
    She doesnt need to tell me that I should stop watchin horse racing.

    I wouldnt put my mare in harm of danger I have asked my vet about her being bred and I have gotten opinions from a lot of trainers I been around. She doesnt know my mare.
         
        04-23-2010, 12:31 PM
      #8
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by EventersBabe    
    She doesnt know me in person. I understand what she says but what she says doesn't matter to me.
    Then how do you consider this person a friend?
         
        04-23-2010, 12:32 PM
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    Originally Posted by luvmyperch    
    Then how do you consider this person a friend?
    Because I have talked to her for the longest time on myspace. But she didnt know me when I first startted my riding. She doesnt know my family back ground.
    I have been around horses all my life. Family trainers that typ of thing.
         
        04-23-2010, 12:36 PM
      #10
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    Being around horses your whole life does not mean you know more than she does.

    If you do not like talking to her then stop talking to her.
         

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