Frustrating!!! (long vent!)
My husband is not a very horse orientated person. He likes to look at them and feed them, but other than that he's got a "whatever" attitude.
I've been retraining OTTBs for about 10 years. More recently (as you probably know) I purchased two ex-racehorses, one OTTB and one OTSB. They were great. Projects for sure. But I had a rehabber mare before them that flipped over with me on her and I lost a pregnancy because of it.
Ever since then my husband has been abnormally strict about the horses I have. He's afraid of me getting hurt.
Now at the stables I run, I give lessons and I also start or re-train horses for other people, or help them do it. But he seemed to think it's ok that I do it for other people but not for my own horses. I complained once that I didn't have a horse I could just get on and ride. That set him off. He said that to continue running the stables I had to sell my two projects.
To be fair he gave me a limit, said I could have 4 good (ie trained) horses and one "cheap" project. I had my eye on a gorgeous filly out east, but that had a $4000 price tag. He was ok with it til I footed the bill for colic surgery for a rescue we'd taken in, and that blew my project budget WAY out the window. And truly p*ssed not only me off, but the lady I was going to buy the filly from.
So now I have Buzz, the umm.. Westphalen x QH (with a KWPN COP LMAO oy). I got him for free. Then I finally found Buttercup, Welsh x QH, that I got for my son as well as a lesson horse. I got her for free. I also have a cremello QH gelding (who will be mine/lesson horse) coming in that all I have to pay for is the transport.
That leaves me with one more horse plus a project.
We have the property, it's in our budget, I totally understand where he's coming from but I feel like it's not fair that I can train other people's horses but not my own. I can get hurt just as easily training someone else's horse. Why doesn't he see that????
Am I being unreasonable? I mean, yes, I know I am, but does anyone see my side??