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post #1 of 27 Old 01-09-2012, 11:15 PM Thread Starter
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Frustration with unresponsive horse sellers...

I've been searching for my horse since May, and in that time, I can't count how many emails I've sent to get more information. I'd say a good half don't ever bother to answer my initial email (and usually don't put a phone number). Why put your horse for sale (and a relatively new ad) and then not answer?

And then, the worst related case just happened to me...

Pretty sure I found my perfect horse. Gone out to see him several times, horse is good age and what I want, owner seems to like us, coach is in agreement, etc etc.

But owner wants to inspect the barn he's going to. Sure, no problem. So we try to set that up... and then we hear that the horse is injured. I think it was genuine. Things get delayed as obviously horse can't pass a vet check. So we get more or less frequent updates on the horse, to the point where the horse is nearly recovered. Excellent! So I reply that we should continue the purchase. (This man preferred to communicate by email, we only talked a few times on the phone) Doesn't answer. I later send another email. Nothing. So, at two weeks with no response I leave a message on his phone... no answer, and it's been over a day now. I don't think he's going to answer. He would've by now if he were planning to... he's certainly had enough chances.

I mean, if he changed his mind about the sale, okay, fine, not the end of the world. Or maybe he wants to wait longer. Or whatever. But why not, y'know, keep me in the loop?! He seemed very business savvy too, not sure why he's treating us like this. But I assume over two weeks of no contact despite attempts from us is a no-go...

Has this ever happened to someone else?
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post #2 of 27 Old 01-09-2012, 11:19 PM
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Sounds a little fishy to me. I would move on if I were in that situation.
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post #3 of 27 Old 01-09-2012, 11:23 PM Thread Starter
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That's the only option I have now...

It's just such a shame. Honestly, this man didn't seem the fishy sort. They were a very well off family. Also, he's well-known in his sector, so I wouldn't think he'd risk a scam.

The only thing that stuck out to me the entire time that it seemed that he never really wanted to sell, but rather his wife who wanted the horse gone... (the horse is technically hers). So don't know if it's related to that. Still, that's no excuse... it takes 4 seconds to write an email saying 'sorry, not selling anymore.'

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post #4 of 27 Old 01-10-2012, 12:08 AM
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It quite possibly is because of that very reason. Motivated sellers will do practically what you want to sell you their horse.
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Sounds like either they changed their minds or sold him out from under you.

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That's very possible too. =(

Just sucks, cause I'll never know what exactly happened.
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post #7 of 27 Old 01-10-2012, 02:59 AM
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This happens a lot, and it happened a lot to me.

My problem is my German isn't good enough to talk over the phone, so I had little choice but to email, as my dad (who is fluent) said its my job to find the horse, I have to do it. I emailed one woman with a stunning horse- no lie, and within my price brackets. I got an email responding she can no longer talk, her husband, who the horse belonged too, was killed in an accident and she's lost the ability to talk, can I please fill out a questionnaire sort of thing to see if I'm a suitable owner blah blah, so I did, and the writing was a bit funny but didn't think much of it. Then she says she would love the horse to come to me, he's in Finland with her at the moment, if I transfer half the money too her, she'll have him delivered with all his tack etc and I then pay the rest if I'm happy.. scam? I was extremely upset.

I go by 'Everything happens for a reason' and maybe the right horse is out there, its just waiting to be found. If people don't respond, its annoying, but its there perogative. I found including small info about me (I'm training at such and such level and looking to bring on/compete this season etc) but not overflowing OMGZ YUHR HOSS IS BUTIFUL does the trick, but I can see you write well anyway.

Just keep up the good work, and hopefully one will come your way!
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I have had the same problem, am now a year into my search for the right horse and constantly have trouble getting in touch with owners or getting them to call me back. Then I see that the horse is still listed on the net and cant work out why they dont get back to me! I have found a number of horses that would have suited me and just gave up after getting messed around by the owner. Dont give up though, I am sure my horse is out there somewhere and would rather wait than buy something that I just like rather than love. I have also found that the people that do get back to me straight away have not been completely honest about the horse when I went to view it and ends up being a waste of time. Maybe the genuine sellers with good horses take their time in choosing a new owner or have so many people keen that they cant get back to them all. Its hard not to feel a little offended sometimes though!
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I agree with Dreamcatcher, sounds like they sold him out from underneath you, or changed their minds.

I have been dealing with the same kind thing. I have been looking to buy a couple more younger horses. I am not in a big hurry, but looking for the right kind of horses.
I think sellers and breeders are tired of the "tire kickers". Understandably so, I would get irritated with people wasting my time if they never had intentions of buying my horse in the first place.

I was interested in a 4 yr old with only 30 days riding on him, emailed gal about him asking general question that could not be answered by reading the ad. Lady seemed rather irritated by my questions. I tried to look past that and asked her if she wouldn't mind sending me a few more conformation pics. Never heard from her. All I wanted to do was make sure he was worth the drive. I had emailed a breeder that had some really nice yearlings on their website,never a word back either.

Its been a long time since I have had to do this. The horses we have now we bought from friends or people we know.

Good Luck!
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post #10 of 27 Old 01-10-2012, 07:01 AM
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Shopping for the horse was a nightmare. I was driving as far as 100+ miles around for several days looking at different horses, and almost all were not what they described in ads and emails. 14'1 horse was 12' AT THE BEST, "child-safe" horse was as dangerous as it comes, etc. And when you drive 100 miles to look at that horse just to find out it's not nearly what you think it is it's very frustrating I have to say.

P.S> I'm positive there are crazy buyers out there too - no doubt, but just never been in seller shoes. :)
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