Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Alberta, Canada
• Horses: 0
While I get frustrated with unsolicited advice, I do think the situation could have been handled differently. The way I read it, Mark started "helping" you, and you went along with it. He stood beside the jump, and your horse refused and deeked out of it multiple times - that is not ok. If I'm riding and the horse refuses, it gets sat on its ass and not allowed off the line of the jump - I HATE seeing riders pull off the jump again and again. I do agree that your horse needed to have a bit of a "get ove it" moment. He probably thought he was helping, and since you didn't say anything to the contrary ("I don't want help") he kept going. It was likely uncalled for about the trot issue, but I wasn't there.
If you don't like riding with this guy or his unsolicited advice, there's a couple of very simple solutions:
- don't ride when he is in the arena
- tell him you don't need/want advice, thank you very much.
Unfortunately, the ring I ride in is used for lessons at minimum 4 days per week, and I ride 5 days a week. Riding space/time is at a premium. Last week, I rode with 7 other riders one day, and 8 other riders another day. (One of those days being a lesson) - you have to learn how to ride with people that don't call their lines or communicate direction. It sucks, but what's the alternative? Not riding? Being bullied out of the ring? No. So what I do is make sure I communicate as much as I can. I call inside/outside for passing. I ask the other riders if they're jumping a course, what the course is. I tell others my course. I yell my lines. It works, more or less.
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