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post #1 of 8 Old 08-22-2009, 02:22 AM Thread Starter
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Getting burned out.

I get burned out when I ride a lot. Well over the summer I really didn't want to ride much because I was so burned out on all of it. I have spent the last year focusing on hardly anything but jumping and fixing my equitation from a crappy trainer I had that ruined it. It just isn't fun anymore. I love jumping but I feel like no matter what I am never good enough.

Any ideas on how to get over this phase of being burned out? What do you guys do to just have fun and relax with your horses?
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post #2 of 8 Old 08-22-2009, 11:04 AM
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Ahh, thats how I got when I rode english. My ex-trainer always put us down whenever we did something she didnt like, or we did something wrong, thinking that it would just make us work hard to prove her wrong, that we were really good riders, but it did the opposite. It made us all dread going to our lessons, and what not. So, I got so fed up with it, and I stopped riding for about a year. I just got back into riding in early March of this year. And I couldnt be happier. However, I dont take lessons anymore, I am leasing a horse. So I get to do what I want!

But What I am trying to say is, sometimes taking a break is not a bad thing. It will make you 'miss' riding, and see why you actually love it.

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post #3 of 8 Old 08-22-2009, 12:10 PM
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When I was in high school, I showed a lot. It got to seem so much like work that it was no longer a pleasure. I know it can burn you out. I stopped showing for a season and just rode out on trails, went to some clinics and played with my horse instead. Maybe you just need to "decompress". Skip the lessons for a while and ride out with friends, or even on your own to rediscover your passion. During my break, I discovered that I needed to change disciplines. I made the switch to reining/cutting and have been very happy with the move. Sometimes we set the bar so high for ourselves it's almost unattainable. Don't be so hard on yourself! It's OK not to be perfect!
Maybe go to some natural horsemanship clinics and work on your relationship with your horse instead of the equitation? Just a thought...

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post #4 of 8 Old 08-22-2009, 04:01 PM
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Remember that all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy! It's so great to hear that you've been working hard. Give yourself some credit for that! And go on a trail ride to remember why you love riding so much! Do a little bareback riding where you aren't working on your position, you're just enjoying the closeness of your horse. Try playing around with a new discipline. And know that if you need a break from riding, it's ok to do that. No one will think less of you or question or your love from horses if you take a break.

I'd also ask yourself, what are your expectations for yourself when you ride? Is it perfection? Immediate and complete improvement with every ride? Make sure that your goals are attainable and realistic. And that your goals are the right goals for YOU, not for someone else. My friend and I would really like to do a grand prix. Her goal is for the end of the year. I don't think I'm going to be able to do that with her. Or even next year. So my goals are to be the best rider I can be, to improve each horse I get on, and to show to the best of my and my horses' capabilities. Another friend's goals are to always have fun, to let riding be her escape from the stresses of life, and to enjoy her horse whether it be jumping or trail riding. Our goals are different and we're all happy with them. Make sure your goals are the right ones and that you have a way of attaining them. Horseback riding is one place where I don't think perfection should ever be a goal. Improvement, yes. But if you're wanting to always be perfect, there's a good chance you'll be dissapointed and miss out on the joys of improvement. I'd also suggest finding a GOOD trainer. I know from your previous posts you've had a really REALLY terrible experience with a horrid trainer, but the RIGHT trainer is worth their weight in gold. It is amazing to have someone who can show you how to improve in an encouraging way and be your cheerleader when you do it right. It doesn't have to be a bad experience.
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post #5 of 8 Old 08-22-2009, 10:46 PM
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I know exactly how you feel. It was the reason I quit. I just got back into riding last April, right after my birthday. I had a super crappy trainer who told me that I was too fat to ride and that maybe if I dropped alot of weight I could ride properly. She was always bugging me about my weight (I've always been a bigger person...) and how I needed to diet. She was a very skinny, very pretty younger woman. It made me so depressed and so discouraged that I quit riding for almost two years. Then I met an amazing trainer who helped me get over it because HEY she was bigger too!!!!! She aslo became my best friend, so we sorta bonded. Now I have my own horse and I don't take lessons anymore. I mostly do trails anyway. I hate arena work. Some of my horse friends get together every week and we ride and critique eachother. We can be a bit brutal sometimes, but it's playful.

Sometimes taking a break is a good thing. You can relax, maybe work on some ground work with your horses and when you really crave riding, then ride!

I wish you the best of luck.

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Thanks guys! I think there had just been a lot of stress in the horsie world for me and a friend lately. She is having a really hard time finding the right horse to ride for her and has been leasing. Then she moved to her dads for a bit to take a break from her mom. I ride her horse Junior [the horse we call mine sometimes]. Junior is older and has some problems with weight and soundness so he isn't that reliable. I haven't worked him for over a month and will start riding him again soon hopefully so that I can build up his muscle.

I guess not only do I feel like I am not a good enough rider, but that I am fighting a losing battle with Junior. It seems like no matter what we try nothing works. We are praying that this winter won't be as harsh as the last one, I had to pull him out of work for almost the whole winter because of multiple issues. It is really disheartening sometimes and my friend tells me not to worry about it because everything concerning him is on her and her fault. But I dunno I just wish I could do more.
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post #7 of 8 Old 08-22-2009, 11:57 PM
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Care to try something new? Saddleseat maybe(tell me your locale and I can hook ya up). Driving perhaps. Training a little. Just like a horse getting sour from doing the same job, you can too. Change it up.
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post #8 of 8 Old 08-23-2009, 04:39 AM
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I competed on my previous ponies and had a lot of fun but it is a lot of work and some people take it so seriously!! So when I got Pierre I was unsure of whether to continue it on horses, then I spent one summer doing whatever I wanted, hacking, jumping, doing fun rides and loved it. I also noticed how difficult it was to make Pierre work properly and also to make him jump, he just doesn't enjoy it at all. He's all for jumping but after a while just gets bored and so do I. So now, we're just having fun, and taking every day as it comes :) xxx

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