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        01-03-2009, 09:24 PM
      #11
    Trained
    Do you WANT to keep him?

    If the answer is right away "yes" then try another trainer. Sometimes some people click and other people don't.

    If the answer is "ya, but..." then sell. No sense in pouring out money, time, spirit and love if you feel that you are going nowhere. Sounds like you've put quite a bit of effort into him.

    Afterthought: have you contacted his breeder or previous owner? Maybe they would have some insight.
         
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        01-04-2009, 01:14 AM
      #12
    Started
    "Life's too short to ride a horse that is not right for you." Good luck in whatever decision you make.
         
        01-04-2009, 01:26 AM
      #13
    Started
    JustDressageIt- my parents don't want to spend money on a horse I'm not riding (understandably) Plus, he's had a GOOD proffessional ride him once a week for a few months. She can ride anything, and be soft/hard handed, quiet, rough, what's ever needed. My trainer finnally had her stop riding him, because it really wasn't helping, and he HATED having more than one rider

    Northernmama-he came from an auction The person who bought him from the auction is to big to ride him, so I actually rode him for her I think 2 months before bying him. I know hom ALOT better than she does unfortunately.

    Thanks everyone for your input. I think I will keep working for a few months, and then if he isn't improving I'll sell him.
         
        01-04-2009, 04:37 PM
      #14
    Showing
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Dumas'_Grrrl    
    Sometimes you just don't get the right match. Sounds to me that you are frustrated and at the end of your rope and have exhausted all the faculties you have.

    You've given almost a full year to "fixing the situation". Point is, he's still green.

    Sell him knowing you tried your best and it just didn't work. The right horse is still out there.
    I couldn't have worded that first sentence better. It sounds as well like the horse and your trainer might not be the most ideal pair either. I would suggest sending him to a trainer for a few months and let them work the kincks out-send him to another trainer.
    Sometimes a horse is a horse and there isn't much you can do-not the right pair to compliment each other as it was just posted and sometimes it takes a different kind of trainer to work those kinks out.

    If after working for a few months with another trainer doesn't work out, then I would maybe start looking at selling.
         
        01-04-2009, 11:06 PM
      #15
    Trained
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by 1dog3cats17rodents    
    JustDressageIt- my parents don't want to spend money on a horse I'm not riding (understandably) Plus, he's had a GOOD proffessional ride him once a week for a few months. She can ride anything, and be soft/hard handed, quiet, rough, what's ever needed. My trainer finnally had her stop riding him, because it really wasn't helping, and he HATED having more than one rider

    Northernmama-he came from an auction The person who bought him from the auction is to big to ride him, so I actually rode him for her I think 2 months before bying him. I know hom ALOT better than she does unfortunately.

    Thanks everyone for your input. I think I will keep working for a few months, and then if he isn't improving I'll sell him.
    If you are going to keep working on him, why not try a new trainer? No matter how good she is, if he doesn't like her because she smells purple to him it will be a tough train. It does happen; rare, but it does. Seems like he may be a bit on the rare side himself, so you never know.

    You also said he doesn't like more than one rider; it's possible he's a one-person-horse. Then he would need to be fully trained by ONE person only and when ready, only ridden by ONE person again... lots of money if you pay for a trainer, but don't get to ride. If that's the scenario, you may not have a choice but to sell.
         
        01-08-2009, 04:28 PM
      #16
    Weanling
    You will have to be the one making the desicion, but I believe that if you give any horse the chance, they will end up improving! Don't lose your confidence, keep trying, and don't give up!
         

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