I will try not for this post to be a book but can't promise...lol
My father is/was a tb breeder. To sum things up he mismanged himself financially and made a mess of things for my parents retirement.
My mom is extreemly resentful about horses and anything to do with them.
SHe see's them as the destruction of her life.
You all have to understand there is a bunch of facters in her feelings about her own experience with horses.
She also has a part in their situation. She could have put her foot down and done things differently as well
That being said. Some of you know I am extreemly lucky to even be able to ride horses since I have a fusion on my neck.
So she always worries about her daughter.
She also likes to stick her nose into my finances. I am well beyond my 30's in age and there is no reason , but I am her child so I get that.
I am not married and can not have kids so my horses and my cats are my kids.
Now in light of my mare's issues and the possibility of a surgery that will cost me alot of money (which I am totally prepared to do) if I have too.
She is in no way supportive of me, or my horses. She only can say to me You can't spend your money on that kind of stuff.
I basically told her what I do with my finances is not really a concern of hers
What would have been nice is if she could just say something supportive.
Then I think how the heck could I even think she could do something of this nature when my family has been disfunctional for all my life.
Is it really to much to ask for a kind word every now and again?
If it were my child would she have such a dang cow!
I will base my decisions on what is best for my horse and go from there.
At this point I am not even sure how much the cost would be or the prognosis. I am waiting for the estimates and having another exam done today for another opinion.
You can read about the health issues in the health section. Bum news about my mare. Probly Surgery
Don't know if that link will get you there or not.
Thanks for reading my vent.
At least I know I will find support from others hear who understand.