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post #1 of 12 Old 04-20-2013, 12:40 PM Thread Starter
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Talking The grass is greener THIS side of the fence

Following JustDressageit's thread
"Grass is greener" syndrome and finding "the one"
I was wondering about the realization you sometimes come to that the horse you actually have IS the horse that you have been looking for

Story time:

I had said for a long time that what I wanted in a horse was my old Ace, only bigger and younger, so when I saw a daughter if hers advertised I had to go see. It was kind of a magic moment, the seller was Ace's old owner, she had kept Emmy as her last foal born on the place, but she no longer suited her needs. Because I owned Ace, and probably because I was all teary eyed at how much like her mum she was, she made me a smoking deal on her, so Emmy came into my life.

When she came home I found another reason for her being a bargain, she was very very reactive and spooky, she had been in training for showing from an early age and I think they had pushed her to far. In the year that I have owned her we have done lots of playing, lots of ground work, I've wondered about using her as a brood mare, but because of my concerns about her flightiness and my weight, I haven't done that much with her, just enjoyed her beauty.

I did ride her twice last year, with an English saddle, but both her and I felt very uncomfortable with it.

Fast forward to this spring, I started ground work with her again, and she seems to have grown a new maturity, and I had a sudden notion to start her under a western saddle, she looked good in it

So I plucked up courage and took her over to the arena and took a test ride, not only did she feel good, everyone, trainers and onlookers alike said that she and I were fine as a pair,

So we are starting a career together as a western pair. Yesterday we hauled over to the arena, and after lunging and long lining, I got on and rode, and had a blast, we only walked, well I walked, she had her mind on going quicker, so when we both got to an agreed speed, she was walking around nice and low and level, striding out on a loose rein, I quit and jumped off.

She has that spark that her Momma has, so full of energy, and spirit, but strangely doesn't worry a nervous rider like me. I had so much fun, seems after looking at her for a year thinking about it, she may just be exactly what I wanted.

Now the question is, I think with Big Ben as my English horse, and Emmy as my little western horse, as much as I love Willow, I wonder if I should let her go. I wont be able to enjoy riding her until I lose a bunch of weight, and if Ben and Emmy fill my needs what do I do with Wills? I already have a decorative lawn mower in Ace, I don't really need another, Grrrrr, I do love her but I just don't know.

Anyway, my grass is greener right in my paddock, under all that snow!
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post #2 of 12 Old 04-20-2013, 12:49 PM
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My goodness, that's a pretty mare.

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post #3 of 12 Old 04-20-2013, 12:52 PM
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Isn't that a great feeling when you look out and realize what you have!? I have done this lately also and love the feeling! Gonna be a good summer!
Oh and I know it will be hard but I agree that you may want to consider letting Willow go. Find her someone that will use her all the time and that she can be number one with! You have yours.
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If Willow doesn't suit your needs, then I'd put an ad up and sell her to a good home that can use her. If there's no real pressing financial reasons, then I'd price her fairly but be willing to wait for just the right person to come along and then I'd work with them if price was an issue.

I've got my own "Willow". I love the mare to death but she's not someone I need to ride. I don't ride Hunt Seat anymore, and she's an excellent Hunter Pleasure mare. So, I have a fair price on her and I'm going to wait. The right person will find her someday and until then, I get to laugh at her silly antics and enjoy having her around.
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Lol, Momma is pretty as well

so is her half sister, out of Ace by a Haflinger stallion

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post #6 of 12 Old 04-20-2013, 12:58 PM
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Goldenhorse - You sound like me with Looby - she was totally not the horse I was looking for in any way and yet I still bought her, the first months were nothing but battles and set backs and depression then the gradual change and now every time I look at her I just love her so much - even DH admits to being fond of her now. Just shows how they can change and grow on you despite everything
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Well I did buy Emmy to be 'that' horse but thought I had made a big mistake. Willow was kind of thrust on me, and she was always a project, she is still the one who puts a big smile on my face, but I have to face facts maybe that says I have to be in a different place physically to enjoy her.

I may just have to see if I can lease her out, then I can see how Emmy shakes down over time, it maybe that this initial honeymoon period goes sour later.
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^^ This is a good idea!

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It's pretty awesome that you were able to find a perfect Match in a horse just like ace!

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Would it be greedy to hope that little Angel grows up to be yet another fantastic mare?
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