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post #1 of 19 Old 12-14-2011, 07:56 PM Thread Starter
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Grieving (new) Mare - How Can I Help?

I just brought home a new horse a week ago. She's a spotted draft, and I adore her. I've wanted a draft since I was 8, and believe me, that was a LONG time ago!

So, Kate (new horse) was hugely attached to her buddy at her old place, and here, my other 2 mares haven't let her near them yet. She's clearly sad and depressed - "grieving" is the only impression you could possibly get if you could see her.

The lead horse here is Mandy, a 22 yr old QH mare, who is lame and slow, but sweet and gentle. The #2 horse is Sally, a high-strung TB x-race horse. Sally keeps running the new horse, Kate, away from the barn, the hay feeder, and of course from Mandy. (of course I've provided hay and water for Kate where she can get all she wants without having to compete for it.) Sally isn't biting or kicking, just charging Kate and running her off.

Would it be worth trying to put the feisty, aggressive Sally in a different pasture to see if old Mandy and Kate could bond a bit? Or should I just let them sort it out? I feel SO bad for Kate. She's so sad.

Any advice for what I could do to help Kate through this transition?

Thanks. This is heartbreaking to watch.
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post #2 of 19 Old 12-14-2011, 09:29 PM
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Well heck, I would try that in a heartbeat.. Sometimes you just have to take the mean bossy one out of the area for a bit to let the new one feel more welcome.. Your TB may never be nice to her, but if she can make friends with your old mare it will make her happier..
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Well heck, I would try that in a heartbeat.. Sometimes you just have to take the mean bossy one out of the area for a bit to let the new one feel more welcome.. Your TB may never be nice to her, but if she can make friends with your old mare it will make her happier..
Thanks, Appyt. I'll try it this weekend when I can watch them all and make sure they're safe and ok.
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You could try either one first, and if it doesn't work, try the other one. It'd be easier for her to befriend just one at a time, as opposed to both. From what I've seen, it seems like horses will be best friends with the horse that's closest in age to them, and of the same gender. So assuming the TB is closer in age, I'd actually thinking putting the TB and the new one together would be the best idea. Then they'd be forced to be friends, although I'm sure there would be a rough patch for a little bit.

It is sad to watch, but eventually they will be all fine with each other.
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I agree with AppyT on this separate the bossy horse
From the herd

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Thanks, guys. I was hoping that they would have had it settled by now. I'm going to take crazy Sally out of the picture for a couple of days this weekend and see what happens.

Wish I could do it tomorrow, but I'll be at work. DAG! Work sure does interfere with my horse time!!

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I hope you have success in this
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I hope you have success in this
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Appreciate the good wishes! Thanks! I'll update.
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How long have you owned your horses for

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How long have you owned your horses for
The old gal Mandy for 7 years. Sally arrived a year ago, and Kate the spotted draft has been here for a week.
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