Hi guys, hope you're ready for my rant...here it goes:
I have been so irritated lightly! I go to the barn to have fun and be happy, right? Well, you would think so. The people at my barn (well the people my age anyway) are horrid. They beat their horses around, don't want to do anything nice with them, and don't want anything to do with me, at least that's how it seems. Apparently, there is NOBODY at my barn who believes in bonding with their horse. My fav quote from one of my "friends" is "horses don't have reasoning, so they won't catch on that everytime they get tacked up they have to work." This was stated after I said something along the lines of, "I just want to have fun, I don't want him to associate me with work." I don't care if horses don't have reasoning, regardless, they don't want to work everytime. All anyone cares about is winning a pretty ribbon at the show so they can brag.
Aside from the nauseating people, the past couple rides have been HORRBILE! I have gotten so easily mad, and have become one of "them." I have been getting upset and take it out on my horse, then break down afterwards for being so mean. Ugh! I am so sick of arena work. Round and round the ring, collection, oh, shoulders back. I'm not saying I don't like English, I'm just saying it would be nice if we could go crazy and have a fun relaxing trail ride. A trail ride is definitely in our future, perhaps spring break
I have two fears with my frustration: 1) I am damaging my horse's mouth in the event of pulling, although he only uses a d-ring snaffle and I'm not totally yanking on his mouth. But my point is, I need to stop. 2) I have an "irrational" fear that I'm wrecking our bond. My mom says I'm being ridiculous, but I can't help it, he means the world to me. After every ride I always end up grooming him til he glistens, I give him extra extra treats, and give him many hugs, kisses, and scratches. Oh, and of course apologize.
This irritation is not a routine, just something that happens occasionaly. My horse is a saint, I'll tell you that. It's a good thing he's cute, because when I get mad at him for a reason, he stares at me and I melt
He has a certain power
After all of this, cookies by the way if you got through this, if and when you get these horsey break downs what you do to get over them. I'm thinking trail ride, bath, and major grazing time. I don't need my fellow horse forumers yelling at me, but giving me input.
Soo, my questions for you are, what do you guys do to relax and make it up to your horse and just have fun? And, medical related question here, is there any obvious signs as to if your horse's mouth is damaged? I'm pretty sure I'm over-reacting, but either way it would be useful. Keep in mind this is not something that happens regularly, and it's no where near as hard as you are thinking.