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post #1 of 4 Old 01-18-2012, 11:32 AM Thread Starter
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Has Anyone Overcome This Problem?

I have 2 horses. They are our first ever horses, we have had them for about a month and a half. I love them dearly- in fact, I had no idea I was such a horse fanatic until they got here! So here's the problem... I so want to ride them. Everyone else in my family has ridden them, but everytime I sit in the saddle, I panic, almost to the point of stark terror. It is not the horses I'm afraid of- it's heights, and being no higher than the top of my 15 hh Paint has me screaming for my husband to help me off.

Has anyone here ever dealt with and beat this phobia? I HATE it!

Thanks so much!
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post #2 of 4 Old 01-18-2012, 11:58 AM
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First of all, welcome to the forum and congratulations on your new horses!

You just need to make the decision and do it. Don't think, just do it. Have someone walk beside you and start off at an easy walk. Just block out the fear and focus on the horse. Once you face your fear head-on and overcome it, you'll be just fine.

I used to be afraid to ride my horse, but one day I just told myself I wasn't going to be afraid anymore. It worked. I just got on and took control. You can't give yourself time to second guess yourself. Just do it. Good luck!
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post #3 of 4 Old 01-18-2012, 12:02 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you so much! I need help with one more thing.... how do I get my profile pic to show up? LOL! It uploaded and is showing in my control panel, but it's not on my posts. Thanks again!
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post #4 of 4 Old 01-18-2012, 01:03 PM
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I don't have a fear of heights but I am borderline Mellissophobic (fear of bees) so I know what it's like to be terrified of something.

I also am prone to get anxiety attacks for no apparent reason. The reason I bring this up is, learning how to cope with anxiety attacks has actually crossed over and helped me to an extent with my fear of bees.

The problem is, with anything we fear, heights, bugs, snakes, whatever it may be, we can not get away from these things so we have to learn to tolerate them.

The number one thing that I've found helps me when I start freaking out is to pay attention to my breathing. When you get scared your breathing become erratic causing your heart to race, only adding to the fear and anxiety you are already feeling.

Next time you mount up, try to just sit there for a minute, close your eyes and focus on nothing but your breathing. Take deep breaths in through your nose and exhale through your mouth, using a little pressure so that you make a "shhh" sound. Once you become comfortable, slowly open you eyes.

If being in the saddle is still a little too hectic for you, try to find some sort of platform that or something in between your horses height and work your way up to it.

The biggest thing is to just take it slowly. You can not trick yourself into thinking that you will cure yourself overnight. I learned a long time ago that I will probably be well into my 70s and still terrified of anything that flies and has a stinger on its butt!!!
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