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        12-05-2013, 09:14 AM
      #1
    Foal
    Unhappy Hate On My Horse And I

    Recently someone took a picture of my pony and I taking off long from a jump where I lost my eq. And posted it on Tumblr saying I 100% shouldn't be allowed to jump or even ride. My pony's ears were back (they're always back when being jumped, it's just her, she's had everything checked, no saddle pains perfectly okay) and they said I abused my poor horse and that I force her to take terrible and long distances and I ride dangerously and put myself and my pony at risk. They said that my eq. Was dangerous and that I flail around at jumps all the time and can't be defended for hurting my horse.
    All of this is not true of course. It was a bad jump and I lost my eq. Over it. You won't look perfect over every single jump and she took the worst picture ever taken where I obviously didn't have a great jump and posted it on a public website.(I know the girl, she's 25, I'm 16) I don't abuse my horse, I love her to death. She's green and tends to want to take the long distances on her own. I would never ride her dangerously or put her at risk.
    I don't know what to do. I got so much hurtful hate and I'm already pretty insecure. The stuff wasn't true, but I have no way to tell the 80+ people who commented it's not. I just feel like such a terrible rider.
         
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        12-05-2013, 09:22 AM
      #2
    Trained
    Social media is often used to hurt others and that is unfortunate. I would suggest blocking the people involved from all your sites and finding some new friends.

    You could also try to get a good photographer to take some pictures of you riding your horse. A real photographer will take enough shots that you will be able to choose through the whole batch and find something that looks good.
         
        12-05-2013, 09:25 AM
      #3
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by Celeste    
    Social media is often used to hurt others and that is unfortunate. I would suggest blocking the people involved from all your sites and finding some new friends.

    You could also try to get a good photographer to take some pictures of you riding your horse. A real photographer will take enough shots that you will be able to choose through the whole batch and find something that looks good.
    See, I have plenty of those but I don't put them out publicly. The girl got the pictures from my friend's Facebook. I've dealt with hate before, but not quite like this. It amazing how people think they can judge everything about you over one fail picture.
         
        12-05-2013, 09:27 AM
      #4
    Trained
    We all have bad moments in our riding. At least those of us that actually ride do anyway. If you never got off balance, fell off, messed up a cue, or did anything else wrong with a horse, it is most likely because you never really rode.

    I would ask the girl to take down the picture. If she won't, I would block her from my life. You don't need "friends" like that.
         
        12-05-2013, 09:47 AM
      #5
    Yearling
    I agree with Celeste. You know that you're treating your horse fairly and are not doing any of the things she's saying so don't let it bug you. If she doesn't stop block her and move on. People like that are just insecure imo.
         
        12-05-2013, 09:50 AM
      #6
    Started
    How well do you know this girl? If she rides at your barn then I would have a discussion with her, maybe with the barn owner present. Tell her that it's radically inappropriate, and that if she thinks you are treating your horse inappropriately then she should come and tell YOU, not try to receive validation from the internet.

    I haven't ever seen any pictures of your riding, but there are folks out there that shouldn't be doing what they are doing with their horses- jumping too high for their skill level, riding incorrectly, etc. I've seen some pictures that made my jaw drop. I cannot comment on whether or not you're doing that, but it's absolutely inappropriate for someone to post a picture of a kid's riding (especially someone that she knows) for all of her friends to ridicule. ESPECIALLY since she's 25 and you're 16. She should know better- EVEN if she radically disagrees with your riding.

    If you know any of the people that are commenting on the post, then I would contact them privately and explain the situation. I'd also ask your friend if she would avoid posting any less-than-flattering photos of you and your pony until this has been worked out. It shouldn't have to be that way- years ago I took a video of a friend of mine's pony refusing a jump. She lost her position, and it was pretty funny to watch. She went around to the jump again and looked perfect. Even years later we like watching and laughing at that video, but I'm sure she would be absolutely mortified if someone took a still shot from it and started picking apart her riding and said she was abusing her pony.

    The damage has already been done, but one possible way to prevent it from happening again and get the picture taken down is if by posting it as her work on a public website, she was using someone else's photo without permission. If your friend makes a stink about that then it may encourage her to take the photo down, and make her think twice about posting something like that again.
         
        12-05-2013, 10:25 AM
      #7
    Foal
    I would post that since she posted the photo without your permission and is falsely accusing your of abusing your horse that you will be reporting her the authorities for cyber bullying and defamation of character. She sounds like a jealous person who loves drama.
         
        12-05-2013, 10:29 AM
      #8
    Trained
    The best way to deal with DRAMA is to ignore it.
    You do not have to defend yourself and contacting other people only keeps the drama current.
    Your friends and those who know you will not believe this stupidity. Those who do not know you are not important.

    I think a certain 25 yo needs a life and is a bully.
    Your actions speak louder than words and holding your head up and being mature about this matter makes her look foolish.
    Just because someone says your cruel and cannot ride properly does not make such claims to be true. Shalom
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        12-05-2013, 10:48 AM
      #9
    Yearling
    You should contact the web site and tell them that you do not wont your picture up with you age they should take it down and this is a forum of bulling
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        12-05-2013, 10:59 AM
      #10
    Yearling
    Ignoring the drama is a really great way to go, but so is sticking up for yourself. I don't think posting random broad statements on Facebook about how 'some people are so rude and have nothing better to do' as a response to this situation is a good idea. (Not implying you did this- just advising against it as a way of dealing with the situation) Nobody likes reading those rant posts.

    But talking to this girl privately in person (perhaps with your BM present) is a must, as is taking the picture off of the web. This is why I don't post too many pics on social media sites in the first place- too many people that don't know much in the way of horses get awful, untrue ideas in their head.

    Good luck, keep your chin up, things will get better!
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