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post #1 of 13 Old 01-02-2012, 07:47 PM Thread Starter
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Question To have a horse

I have been trying to talk my father into getting me a horse. He keeps looking up barns with me but it never gets any further. We have gone to 3 different horses to lease and lease terms have been difficult and ridiculous. I feel like owning a horse will be more expensive but better in the long run. So what else can say to my father to budge him into getting me a horse?

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post #2 of 13 Old 01-02-2012, 07:52 PM
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My parents are not horse people so that is my first problem. But they keep saying that if we were around a lot more then we were and they were more into horses we could get one as long as I could prove that i was responsible, and that I could handle taking care of a 1,000lb animal. Where would this horse be kept?
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post #3 of 13 Old 01-02-2012, 07:56 PM
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I would recommend taking lessons before buying a horse, it an be VERY overwhelming if you just jump straight into ownership. I took lessons for six years before I started leasing a horse for a year, and then bought my own horse. There is a lot to learn, in fact I'm still learning new stuff!
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post #4 of 13 Old 01-02-2012, 08:02 PM
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It's good that your father is showing incentive that he interested in helping you find a dream horse.

ALittleBitOfASaint makes a good point; lessons is a good way to show a parent that your responsible and know what it takes to own a horse.

I don't think it's absolutely neccessary to take lessons to be able to acquire a horse, but you should definitely research the expenses associated with the ownership of a horse. Do you have a place to keep the horse? Is it cost effective?

Owning a horse is a big responsibility, but incredibly exciting.

A good way to show your father that you understand -- and accept -- the responsibilities of ownership is to make a list of expenses and also a pro/con list to discuss with him. I did this with my grandma and that's what helped me to get my first horse. I've owned a horse ever since. (:

Good luck!
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post #5 of 13 Old 01-02-2012, 08:02 PM Thread Starter
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Well my parents both love horses. I also go a dog 5 years ago and have proven my resposability. We also found a farm 8 minutes away. People keep telling my parents that I need a horse. And my father is also retired from the military so we no longer move around. I have a sister so we can share, we are the best of friends so sharing is not a problem. And my 17 birthday is coming up. I don't want to say I deserve a horse, but I think my whole family could enjoy one. I have been taking lessons on and off because of moving all over the world. But I have started riding every week since last summer.

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post #6 of 13 Old 01-02-2012, 08:52 PM
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I don't think leasing your first horse is a bad idea at all. It's a way to get your feet wet without having sole responsibility.

I just got my horse a few years ago. It was fun, but a little scary, too. I got all kinds of surprises that I wasn't considering when I got him. I had to move him twice, there were injuries, thrown shoes, training issues, finding a farrier that actually did a good job, changing prices in hay or your hay supplier running out early. Last summer our grass didn't come in good and we ended up having to provide hay a large part of the summer. I could go on and on, but I think you get the idea.

Don't get me wrong, I love my horse and am glad I have him. There have certainly been times, especially in that first year, that I have asked myself, 'What in the heck have I got myself into!'

It will be very exciting whether you buy or lease. Just be sure and post plenty of pics for us.
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post #7 of 13 Old 01-02-2012, 10:18 PM
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I can completely identify with you. I asked my dad from age 8 to 18 to buy me I'm begging my husband at age 38! My dad did cave and leased me a horse during my teen years, which now that I can look back on it with logic, was the best move for him. Try leasing, and see how it progresses for you. You'll be able to enjoy a horse, while your dad will see your commitment. Best of luck to you!
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post #8 of 13 Old 01-02-2012, 10:59 PM
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At least I am not the only wife begging for horses ;)

I thing that leasing is a wonderful idea for many reasons. It really give you a wake up call as to what is involved without a long term commitment and it also helps you refine what you want in a horse. You may lease a horse you think is "perfect" and find you want something different...or that you grow into a new phase of your riding :) Or you may lease something not ideal and find it's exactly what you were looking for!
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post #9 of 13 Old 01-02-2012, 11:06 PM
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Poor With_Grace... some husbands don't understand! I hope yours comes around :)

Leasing is a great way to figure out if you can handle all the craziness without fully committing. I'm glad I did it before he became mine because I was so shocked at how much I had to worry about.. worming, stall rest, farrier (urghh a nightmare at first,) buying hay, changing feeds, fitting the saddle.. exercising the horse (not just riding, but ground work and lunging and whatnot.)

Either way good luck!
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post #10 of 13 Old 01-02-2012, 11:15 PM
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I have always wanted a horse but i never got the chance
to own one
but now at 48 and married my dream may come true
meaning I may lease a horse

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