I know how you feel. I was a rabid horse teen, my job in high school was training dressage horses. I took two lessons a day, after riding 4 to 6 horses. I lived horses.
I am now the mother of two, been through a divorce, and to very nasty relationships, and an accident that almost killed me. I am with a wonderful man now, and I have a great horse. I just don't feel it right now.
I love my horse, and had thought about selling her, but I quite literally started having chest pains. I was on the verge of a heart attack when I had people out looking at her. I spose I will keep her.
Is this something we will grow back into? Maybe sharing with someone, and not having life responsibilities to take out the spark would help?
I dunno. *shrug*
One of these days, I will own a boarding facility so my property can pay for itself for the most part, and I can have riding buddies.
Sorry you've had such a tough streak. I suppose this is part of growing up - reassessing priorities, putting other parts of life first...? Hope you get that spark back too.
i think its natural for your passion to ebb and flow. unless you are a very lucky individual who never has to worry about money or school, chances are that you'll find that at times you get so busy with life that its hard to justify riding-especially if you're a new mom. I knw I go through periods like this. I'm a full time student, and I work part time. This means that on a GOOD week, I go 50-55 hours a week. And I'm trying to juggle riding 2 horses. It does get exhausting. And there have been times when I've wanted to entirely quit, because I lost any passion whatsoever and it became a chore.
my advice is to take a break. it won't hurt your horse any. take a break, put him out to pasture and see if you miss it in the next couple of months.
if you do, than you can get started again. if not, then maybe decide that at this point in your life, having a horse isn't for you anymore
I think that Skyhuntress is right, you may just need a break. When I was still living at home, taking care of all the horses and dogs was my responsibility. My brother graduated and left home when I was 14 and then all the chores fell on me to do. My Dad had just been elected sheriff and was working horrendous hours so there was no one else. Having to get up in the morning, go feed and water, go to school, come home, either ride my young horses or load up and go check cattle, come home, feed and water again, clean up, go inside, do homework, go to bed and do the exact same thing tomorrow got really old after about 3 years. I just got burned out and had to literally force myself to go to the barn. After I graduated and moved away to go to college, it struck me about 4 months into it that I hadn't been on a horse or even around one in 4 months and I started jonesing again. Now I go home every chance I get because it only averages out to about 8 days a month that I get to ride. I think you just need a break. Like SH said, just turn him out for a while and give you both a vacation. You know what they say, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" LOL.
I've had a break for 2 years now almost - I mean I've rode occassionally and my horses are in a large pen with covered barns so I do have to throw them hay, but it's not like I have to clean stalls or do turnout daily. And I have time if I make it (I only work part time as a photographer). Some days, I would just rather not...
I do feel like I've had a little bit of a breakthrough the last couple of days. I decided to help out with the local 4-H horse group this past winter and they are starting to get into the swing of things - seeing kids excited - you can't help but get excited. And since the weather is finally getting nice, I've been taking my daughter out to "ride" a lot and brush horses. It was nice to give them their first baths of the year. It is pretty cold today and I actually woke up this morning wandering what we were going to do since it was too chilly to mess with the horses. I have also found a youth to share my "old" passion with (and some travel expense) so now I have a riding pal and maybe I won't feel like horse shows will be such a financial burden. Oh well, here goes...Thanks for the advice and encouraging words.