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        05-02-2013, 03:21 AM
    Green Broke
    I call the horse I sponsor "mine".

    Even the BO, who is the director of the rescue and therefore the owner calls him "my horse or Castles horse" she's always hitting me up saying "your horse misses you, your horse wants you to ride, your horse.....etc"

    I'm always quick to clarify that I DO NOT own him if people inquire.

    I think people biggest worry over claiming "ownership" is that you mat feel one day that you are entitled to the horse and then try to play the system and take the horse....

    Does that make sense??

    IMO its pretty harmless as log as you aren't trying to make the wrong impression

    But if you clarify and you don't mean anything shady by it, then I never see a problem with it.
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        05-02-2013, 03:32 AM
    People house..when they r only renting, so really there is no diff, im not going to say...ohh this is the rental home I live at lol, the horse is urs atm as ur caretaker, I only lease miover, but I pay for everything he needs plus extra, I call him mine as no one else here calls him "mine" , his got to be someones and that's me!
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        05-02-2013, 03:47 AM
    I would personally refer to the horse as "my leased horse" or "the horse I lease," but that's just me. I used to work with attorneys and being specific about things like ownership have stuck with me.
        05-02-2013, 03:49 AM
    My daughter rode a borrowed horse for a while. She didn't want to and refused to at first as he was a big money earner. One day the friend that owned the horse handed her the horses papers and said "there, now he's yours". She started riding him that day after a lil more persuasion and some tears. But anytime we took him to a show, when someone asked her about the horse, she'd tell em that no he wasn't hers, she's just borrowing him.

    I honestly don't care who a horses owner is, except mine obviously, but there could be situations where the simple innocent act of saying "he's mine" could cause a fuss. I know horse people aren't real dead set in their ways or have strong opinions, HA!, but ownership can be very touchy. Almost as much as color, omg!

    Wouldn't it be just as easy to say "my lease" or " that's the horse I ride" or even "yep that's Ed, I ride him". There's fanatics out there who freak about the lil things. Best to stay safe. Well unless you're me, a guy I know only owns bays and sorrels, I call em brown horses. It drives him insane! Haha.
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        05-02-2013, 03:51 AM
    Only problem with saying *ur horse* is when people long have you had him, and what his dam and sire and, it is easier to say my lease then my horse, for unexpected questions
        05-02-2013, 03:53 AM
    Everyone I know are not interested in horses so it never comes up in convo which is good
        05-02-2013, 04:04 AM
    Green Broke
    To non-horsey school/work friends I'd probably say that he was my horse (in passing) but to people around the barn/competitions etc I would say he's a lease.

    I think its always good to be upfront, not that you're lying but if you were go somewhere with horses and say he's yours then when you walk away chances are somebody would say something like "she's lying, the horse belongs to so-and-so" then everybody would think you're deceiving them, which would damage your reputation in the horse world. Not saying you should care too much what others think - but among horses a good reputation is priceless.
        05-02-2013, 08:47 AM
    Green Broke
    How is it not lying if he is indeed not yours. Lying by omission is still lying. Why not tell the truth and remove any chance of being called out for calling something yours that isn't.

    In regards to where you live, I also state that it is the house and/or property I lease. I do not own it so it would be wrong to say it is my house and land. I do say "my home" when inviting someone over as it is my home at the moment.

    To me both situations only create a false sense of worth that is not doing anyone any good in the end except creating broader barriers for interpretation. I think our government officials have already claimed a monopoly on that to my dislike.

    Why do you feel the need to call something yours that isn't? I understand the desire to have something more than you do, but to falsely claim it has never made sense to me. I guess in that sense I could say I own the company I work for if all I did was say it is my work.

    I know someone is thinking I need to lighten up. Hmm, there is an option. Lol
    Just something else for you to take into your thinking process as it was asked what we think.

    Enjoy the day as I hope it is a wonderful one because we all know that tomorrow is promised to no one.
        05-02-2013, 08:56 AM
    Thanks for all the opinions. I do clarify he is a horse I lease if the conversation gets to the point where it is pertinent. It's mostly that I use "mine" as a stand-in word. I'm well aware of the terms of my lease and where I stand. His owner even says though, to treat him as if he's mine.

    I don't have a problem with my word usage. I was just curious how other people handled similar situations.

    When I think of our relationship theni I'm his, and he's mine.
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        05-02-2013, 09:00 AM
    Green Broke
    I've always called my lease horses mine. No one else touched them aside from barn owner/staff and myself. I was the only one who rode or did any training whatsoever.

    When I refer to my last lease that I still intend to buy, I call her my horse. Owner refuses to admit that the horse would be much happier with me and wouldn't sell when I asked, and now she's ignoring me after she said I could still lease her. I'm going to offer to buy her again in august, with money in hand. Sure, if someone outside my family/boyfriend asked I don't call her such..but we were one of the best paired horses/riders around here. I know she isn't mine right now, but she'll never be her owner's horse in regards to emotion, trust, or respect. I dare not say such to leave it to misinterpretation though, only to those who understand where I come from and know what we've gone through together.

    If someone asked what animals I said I always just told them a horse and 5 fish, lol. No one around here reads into things and runs back to the owner..and if they do, everyone I've leased from also refers to the horse as mine (which is true for the length of my lease, to an extent). If someone asks how long I've owned them I let them know I just lease the horse, but it's been however long. No one takes offense to it until the people involved have burned bridges or are on bad terms.
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