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    08-27-2012, 02:15 PM
Heard back from my instructor.

Needless to say, she's furious with us.. which I expected. She's mad because she feels like we disrespected her, but we tried to reach her various times throughout the week. On Wednesday, we were planning on talking about it.. but I couldn't make it to my lesson. On Friday, we tried calling.. no answer. On Sunday afternoon, we dropped by, nobody was there. Sunday night, we called various times. She finally picked up today and gave my dad a long speech.. my dad says she was "polite" about it but was clearly very mad.

Long story short, I get to go get yelled at on Tuesday before my lesson.. and I think it's unlikely that we'll be able to board Indie there. I know there's a few barns that are a bit closer but one only teaches Western (so it'd likely be a last resort) and one, I have no idea what price.. so I'd have to ask.

Anyways, I'm pretty upset and while I understand why she'd be a bit mad, I think she's taking it to an extreme.. but I expected that, because well, she's Laura and she's known around here for being a hothead.
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    08-27-2012, 02:39 PM
Green Broke
If that's how she acts because you didn't buy her horse, I really think it's for the best. Sounds like it's as good a time as any to move on. Maybe the next barn will have an even better instructor. You don't need one who acts like that.
    08-27-2012, 02:47 PM
I know, but I hate that she feels like it was a sign of disrespect.. because it wasn't, the only reason I held off on telling her for so long was because I was scared about what she would say. She told my dad that she'd be able to find another person to sell Major to but she's not at all pleased.

There's a couple barns a little bit closer, but I don't know about prices for the English barn. The Western barn was just built last year and is really nice, but only does Western lessons.. plus it's only $15 more per month than Laura's. I think that if we went there, we'd save money on gas and we could just pay another instructor to come up and teach me once a week.

Then we have another English/Western barn, I don't know what it looks like but the owner is pretty popular in our local horse scene. My instructor has always painted her out to be nasty, but I've never gotten that vibe from her. She definitely is quick to correct but as long as you listen to her advice, she seems very nice.

I don't want to leave my friends at the barn, as I've made a few.. but if it comes between that and getting Indie, then I won't hesitate to move. I also am prepared to break down on Tuesday because Laura gets really nasty and I take a lot of things personally.
    08-27-2012, 02:54 PM
Green Broke
She sounds like she's acting like a child. There is no reason to feel bad about not buying her horse. From what you have told it sounds like you would be better off with a horse other than Major. And he seems to have some health issues popping up if I remember right?

Honestly you are acting more like an adult than her. And I wouldn't take what she says about the other instructor as any sort of truth. Go look at the other barns. Even if they cost a slight bit more, time is money. If it saves travel time, that saves gas and you waste less time.

Don't let her get to you, she sounds awfully selfish. You will make new friends, you're young, you have plenty of time to make more friends.
    08-27-2012, 03:00 PM
Yeah, I still don't think his leg is 100%. I was observing Indie's movement yesterday and I like it so much better than Major's.. I just like her more and as my dad said, he doesn't want to spend so much money on something I don't want.

I think it's only about ten minutes away, which means I could probably bike there in half an hour to an hour if needed. I also have a friend who lives relatively close to it, so I could probably convince her to come keep my company. I did meet the owners of the place for a brief minute at a clinic and they seemed really nice.

I know the other instructor traveled up to another barn to teach another girl, who was a top junior rider in the Maritimes, so her rate might be a little higher.. but if that's what I need to do, then I will. I don't want this situation with my current instructor to ruin my dream of getting Indie when I've already put so much thought into it and everyone, minus her, is onboard.
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    08-27-2012, 03:06 PM
She's mad because you chose a different horse rather than the one she has for sale?

Go see the new potential barns, and don't look back.
    08-27-2012, 03:13 PM
Basically, she says she feels disrespected that we didn't consult her.. even though we've tried calling various times and when I tried talking to her about it at the barn, she was too busy teaching another lesson. So when my dad finally got a hold of her today, she pretty much went on a "calm" riot.

My dad said that it's up to my mom and myself to decide where we're going to keep her, as he just wants to help pay for costs since he's not as horse savvy. He says we can still get her, but he feels a bit bad for not getting a hold of Laura sooner. I think that the new barn I'm looking into could be a really great change. It has a bigger indoor arena (equipped with a heated viewing room), access to trails and it even has a roundpen and outdoor ring (100x120). I don't think it'd have jumps set up, but I could always try out dressage maybe and just buy cavalettis. :) I could even get dropped off there after school.

I know that if she says we can board her at the barn, then I'm really going to have to think about it.. even though my parents have the final say on where Indie stays.

I finally understand why people have changed barns and quit lessons there though. I know that her methods of throwing rocks and chasing after me and Major with a lunge whip "helps".. but she's always on edge it seems.
    08-27-2012, 03:14 PM
Green Broke
I would move. She has been looking out for her best interests since day one.

Plus the new barn sounds like it might work out better.
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    08-27-2012, 03:16 PM
I think so too, if it had an English instructor, it'd be perfect.. but I don't think bringing another instructor over once a week would be an issue. Plus, if I did have any problems.. I think the barn owners would help me out anyways.
    08-27-2012, 03:22 PM
Green Broke
I think going to a new barn would be a great opportunity.
Get a fresh start, at a fresh barn, and another instructor. Its not a bad thing to move on and expand your horizons so to speak. To me it sounds like the bad is outweighing the good at your current barn. So I would switch but that's jmho
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