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post #11 of 50 Old 10-10-2011, 08:08 PM
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In my life, I've known and worked with a lot of horses and I can honestly say I only ever felt that 'click' with one horse. As a kid, I rode a new lesson horse nearly every month for a year. There's 12 horses that I never, truly agreed with. When I worked at the racing stable, we had 50 horses in training at any given time, plus another handful at the track. Over the course of 4 years, many of these horses went and a bunch more came. Of all of these horses, the only one I clicked with was a spooky, awkward looking filly named Vanna. She was a mess - terrified of people, whips and new things. Loud noises freaked her out, halters caused panic and no one dared to touch her face for fear of a full-blown, violent panic attack. She was an absolute tragedy waiting to happen.

For some reason though, I loved her the moment I laid eyes on her. I didn't care that she was a mess... I just wanted to be around her, and oddly enough, she permitted it. Within a short period of time, I could handle her, lead her, work with her and do whatever I needed to do. She looked for me in the barn, she needed me there to take her on and off the track. She was mine, and I was hers. She was sent away from the barn 12 years ago and I never stopped looking for her. She was just one of those horses that I couldn't ever forget. I liked every other horse I met, but none had that special quality that Vanna did. No other horse drew me in like Vanna did, and I didn't feel this overwhelming urge to be around them. That's how I knew she was my heart horse - I could just never get her out of my head and I never stopped looking for her.

I looked for 12 years for my Vanna and will be lucky enough to bring her home with me on October 14. I don't know if she'll remember me, but at least she's finally home.
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post #12 of 50 Old 10-10-2011, 08:22 PM
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You see that's how i feel about Fancy, I love her, always have, always was on my short list, by she doesn't want to do what I want, and I don't feel like I'm her person. I want her to go to someone who clicks with her, and sadly it's not me.
It was an incredibly difficult decision for me to sell my gelding. I had him waaaaay over priced for awhile because I didn't want to sell. However, after many unplanned dismounts, it just wasn't worth the risk of getting hurt when I have 2 children to take care of. Not to mention that I had two other riding horses that were much more forgiving. I had several offers, but they weren't what I had in mind for him. Finally, a young lady came along that was ideal. It made it much easier for me knowing he was going to be well-cared for. I still get regular updates on their adventures together.

What I didn't realize until I sold him was that I was ignoring the potential of the other two riding horses that I had. I was so focused on fixing my gelding that I overlooked what I had already. So, now a year later after selling my gelding, he is better, my mares are better, and I am better. It was a win/win for everybody.

Good luck sorting out which to keep and which to sell. I know hard it is to let them go!
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post #13 of 50 Old 10-10-2011, 08:31 PM
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I'm not sure if I believe in a heart horse, nor do I the perfect horse.

You don't have to own something to appreciate it, we don't own our children, boyfriends, husbands, family, yet we love them all (hopefully), so even if you have a heart horse, if it exists, or otherwise a horse you really have a connection with, if you can't keep it anymore its okay. I'll always cry when I have to sell a horse, but its natural for people to cry especially when there is change, but you don't have to own the horse, make the decisions you feel best with, it might make you sad but over time you'll surprised how quickly you forget that it hurt like that.

Don't know what I am trying to say, just don't dwell on a "heart horse" or anything like that, its just meaningless titles to give things substance, you'll know which horses you must keep, and the ones you're not sure about... if you have to get rid of some, they're the ones to go. My mother once told me (although this was about relationships ie. boyfriend type) that as soon as you seriously think about breaking it off, the relationships already over, really you're just counting time. But I have found that works with almost everything, when you seriously think about moving house you've pretty much started to move, its like you have subconsciously made a decision, you just haven't realised it yet. As soon as you start questioning things in your life, it generally shows there is underlying doubt, worries, a problem of some kind. You might not know if you don't want something, but you really want it, you'll know because you don't have to ask if you want it.

That didn't make much sense, but basically I am saying trust what you decide. You already which horses you can't stand to lose, it doesn't matter what you call them.

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post #14 of 50 Old 10-10-2011, 08:40 PM
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I believe Ricci is my heart horse, she completes me. And I hated her when I met her. I don't know what happened. I just know the thought of losing her is crippling agony.

Not that I could part with Gracie any easier. But now that I think of it, if push came to shove, it'd be easier to regime my aging Ricci free to a good retirement home than it would be to regime my opinionated filly. Huh.
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post #15 of 50 Old 10-10-2011, 08:42 PM
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I think that's a tough one to define. I can say of the hundreds of horses that have called the family farm home, I've had 3 heart horses. 2 that I lost long ago and one that I own now.

The first was the first horse that was completely mine. Not mom's, not grandpa's. Her name was Bunny. I was 6 when I got her. She was the ultimate babysitter and tolerated more rookie kid stuff from me than she probably should have. I trusted that horse with my life.

The next was Bubbles, the 2nd mare that was all mine. She was the first one that I had the pleasure of teaching a few things to. She was a wp horse that I taught to be a hunt seat, jumping, speed event, lower level reining & trail horse. I was 12. She was the first mare I raised my own foal out of. That foal paid for my first car at 16. We grew together, that's what made her so special.

The one I still own is my old man, Hondo. He was born here when I was 2, so we grew up together. He taught me at an early age that stallions don't have to fit the stereotype. I've ridden and handled him so much & for so many years that it is a bordeline mind reading relationship. He's special because we are so in tune and he's been there as long as my memory serves.

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post #16 of 50 Old 10-10-2011, 08:45 PM
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I'm around a lot of horses on a daily basis. Some horses are closer to my heart than others. I think strength of my bond to different horses is more dependant on me than them. In Chicken Soup for the Pet Lover's Soul, I read a short story called "Experiments in Love". In summary, the narrator's cat had a litter of kittens. She instantly picked one of them as her favorite. Her favorite kitten developed into the friendliest, sweetest one.

That kitten died, so the narrator picked a new kitten from the litter. This kitten started out as nothing special personality wise, but soon grew into a loving pet. The narrator thought she was catching on to something, so she ignored this kitten and picked a new one. The same thing happened: whatever kitten she tried to bond to became the friendliest in the litter.

In summary... A heart horse isn't waiting out there in the pasture to bond with its destined human. We make heart horses. Humans initiate the bonding process.

I was given the choice between two horses. One of these horses I had already spent time and had fallen hopelessly in love with. The moment I saw her, I wanted her and only her.

The other choice was another mare. I rode them both, but I never wanted that other mare. I always wanted choice A. Therefore, I "clicked" with horse A and not horse B. It was me clicking with the horse, not the horse clicking with me. With horse B, there was just never anything there. I never cultivated anything.

Among the horses I work with daily, I never "click" with them in a heart horse manner because I'm not seeking that connection. I allowed myself to open my heart to one other horse and seek a bond with her. Sure enough, a bond formed. She's my second love.

Also, once I opened myself to a bond with that horse, she bonded with me. None of the other horses I wasn't interested in bonding with did that. Funny how that works, eh?

That was a mindless ramble. I'll get my coat.
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I'm loving all the thoughts, and none of them are rambling, it's hard to define this one isn't it..
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post #18 of 50 Old 10-10-2011, 10:02 PM
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Wow, that's a tough one to describe. To me, its a horse that just holds your heart......

Dragon is not really my favorite horse to ride, but he definitely holds the keys to my heart. If I never could ride him again, I would still keep him, he just completes me, you know?

As far as riding, Shadow is my favorite and best to ride. We mesh together well, and know each other like a book. However, she doesn't hold my heart at all like Dragon does. If I had to sell, she would be one on the list.

I have owned more horses than I can count in my lifetime, and I can only count the ones I've considered my "heart horses" on one hand, you are right, its hard to describe.....
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post #19 of 50 Old 10-10-2011, 10:58 PM
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I am not sure what I think about the idea of a "heart horse". I have never owned a horse that I couldn't live without or couldn't bear to part with. It's not that I have never had a strong connection to a horse, but more that I realize we are all forced to make difficult decisions about horses because of life's responsibilities and limitations. This is not unlike having a "soul mate" as a partner. I don't believe there is only one person (or horse) for each of us, but rather that we have the ability and opportunity to resonate with many other people and horses. Who we choose / happen to connect with often depends upon the circumstances we meet under. Sometimes, circumstances aren't quite right to nurture a heart-felt connection.

For me, a "heart horse" is an animal that we have developed a strong bond and fondness for (love?) based upon trust and unconditional acceptance. The heart horse is our true equine friend that both shows us and allows us to be who we really are. And, we reciprocate that by accepting the "heart horse" for who he /she truly is, flaws and all.
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post #20 of 50 Old 10-10-2011, 11:08 PM
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I think it's just something you feel. I can't explain it. I don't have a heart horse yet, but I have a "heart cat." I just know in my heart, I will never have the connection with another cat the way I do with Minnie. I love my horse, I will never sell him as long as I am able to keep him. But there just isn't that feeling in my heart, that same connection that I have with my cat. And I love all cats, but there is just something special between us. Maybe that sounds dumb.
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