I'm around a lot of horses on a daily basis. Some horses are closer to my heart than others. I think strength of my bond to different horses is more dependant on me than them. In Chicken Soup for the Pet Lover's Soul
, I read a short story called "Experiments in Love". In summary, the narrator's cat had a litter of kittens. She instantly picked one of them as her favorite. Her favorite kitten developed into the friendliest, sweetest one.
That kitten died, so the narrator picked a new kitten from the litter. This kitten started out as nothing special personality wise, but soon grew into a loving pet. The narrator thought she was catching on to something, so she ignored this kitten and picked a new one. The same thing happened: whatever kitten she tried to bond to became the friendliest in the litter.
In summary... A heart horse isn't waiting out there in the pasture to bond with its destined human. We make
heart horses. Humans initiate the bonding process.
I was given the choice between two horses. One of these horses I had already spent time and had fallen hopelessly in love with. The moment I saw her, I wanted her and only her.
The other choice was another mare. I rode them both, but I never wanted that other mare. I always wanted choice A. Therefore, I "clicked" with horse A and not horse B. It was me clicking with the horse, not the horse clicking with me. With horse B, there was just never anything there. I never cultivated anything.
Among the horses I work with daily, I never "click" with them in a heart horse manner because I'm not seeking that connection. I allowed myself to open my heart to one other horse and seek a bond with her. Sure enough, a bond formed.
She's my second love.
Also, once I opened myself to a bond with that horse, she bonded with me. None of the other horses I wasn't interested in bonding with did that. Funny how that works, eh?
That was a mindless ramble. I'll get my coat.