Originally Posted by Corporal
First, Pyrrhic, **OOODLES OF HUGS** I've been there. First my 6yo grade gelding bucked me off--9 feet in the air--and my fall broke my right humerous. It happened in May and blew my 2004 riding season. Then I tried several horses and missed being dragged when a gelding that I tried without stirrups bucked when I squeezed from a walk to a trot. (I was bruised, but not broken--I renamed that horse, "Alpo.") I have been very leary of horses I don't know for several years now. You get older and accidents just beat the courage out of you, it seems.
I think the horse that will bring you back is going to be a middle aged super calm, kid-safe-type lesson horse. I'm thinking that if you find a stable that has a few of these, and an instructor who truly understands just how slow you need to start, you might find a wonderful mount. They do sell their lesson horses.
In training in my two 5yo geldings I've tried to replicate what made my string of lesson horses so reliable. I realized that every horse was ridden over 1,000 hours/year. There is no way that one person can put in that many hours. But a lesson horse does put in that much time. I am sure that you could tolerate bad habits that are not dangerous. The lesson horse that was my favorite as a teenager would pull the reins out of your hands while you waited in line during lessons, but he never reared, bucked or ran off with anybody, and he'd wait forever for you to mount--stuff like that is tolerable.
I'll be happy to follow this thread. I REALLY wish you well, and pray for a complete physical AND mental healing! =D
Thank you and I'm so sorry you've had bad experiences too. I'm in awe of you still riding and having a couple of youngsters. You're right that as you get older it gets harder....you realise you don't bounce anymore when you hit the ground you more inclined to splat!
I agree that I need a calm, steady, beginner/kid safe horse to ride. I have been for a riding lesson here and the horse was 2nd level trained? I have no idea what that means...but it was far too sensitive for me right now. Very well trained and obedient, but I felt very anxious with how sharp it was.
It sounds really stupid, but part of me wants to own a horse again soon. To build a bond up with one horse and feel safe with that one horse. I guess that comes from losing my TB mare a couple months back. I miss that bond and the time we spent together.