Originally Posted by aimcat
Suggesting I buy a certain horse (same breed she rides), suggesting I not ride in a brand new cordura saddle I bought because she said it was not safe like leather ones, telling me to start wearing a helmet (which I should anyway), being really bossy.
IMHO - this sounds like a person who is worried about liability issues.
She wants you to use the "safer" saddle and wear a helmet.
You are currently leasing (is it a horse she owns?) but she is encouraging you to buy a horse of your own.
Are there other things she is being "bossy" about? Or mostly safety stuff?