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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: South East Texas
While I can agree with some of the things that have been said, I honestly do think that perhaps getting a horse that is less sensative to emotions, as the OP said, might be in her best interest and the horse's best interest until she can learn to work through things with her emotions. OTTBS, are, without a doubt- a very hard type to work with because of they way they're trained. That doesn't mean that they're bad animals, I absolutely love OTTBs, but they do take a certain kind of person. Often that kind of person is one that can detatch themselves from their emotions and work merely as an enforcer and teacher. That is something that may be hard for the OP.
I'm not saying that she should absolutely give the animal away, but I AM saying that it is not wrong for her to return the horse either, as a few of you seem to be implying. Even if its only been a few months. It is better for her to realize NOW that she may be in over her head than to realize it later when irrepairable damage may of already happened.
I personally have one of those horses that are very sensative to emotion. She works absolutely wonderfully for me when I am calm, persistant, and focused, but if I'm distracted at all, or feeling 'off' that day, she can immediately pick up on that and feed off of it. And she's a nightmare. For that reason, she isn't a beginners animal nor one of our therapy animals. She simply does not have the personality for that, and that's ok. Turning around and looking at our shetland pony, Cowboy though- you'll find the complete opposite. It doesn't matter what kind of person is working with him. JVs from the local jail, fearful autistic kids, experienced adults, or timid children. His personality is consistent and always calm, relaxed, and confident. Perhaps this is the kind of personality that OP needs, atleast for the time being. This kind of horse can help build confidence rather than tear it down, and can be a very good thing.
OP, another thing to think about is finding somewhere that you can ride an old Schoolmaster horse for maybe two or three lessons a month, and then ride Crystal for the rest of the lessons. This could potentially help you better yourself when away from her, and bring the newfound abilities and confidence into your rides with Crystal to help teach her.
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