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post #21 of 29 Old 01-01-2013, 10:45 PM
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Okay sorry. Yeah I quite training with my trainer cuz she was supposed to teach me how to train horses but all we did was ride in circles. You are very true FaydesMom. I agree with that.
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post #22 of 29 Old 01-01-2013, 10:47 PM
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So true and I am very afraid of him and it's just become a nightmare and I don't enjoy heading to the barn anymore. It doesn't help having people constantly asking if I am going to get on and ride him especially the barn owner as he can ride him with no problems so he thinks it's all in my head.
Being afraid of him is nothing to be ashamed of. You are showing much maturity in knowing you are in over your head. I would talk to the previous owners and go have a look at the one they have that they say may fit you better. You don't have to take it, just go look and try her out. IF she seems more of a fit, trade your boy for the other horse and enjoy riding again!!

Good luck with whatever you decide. Hang in there!

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post #23 of 29 Old 01-01-2013, 11:06 PM
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I don't mean to hurt anyone's feeling, I hope y'all can forgive me.
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post #24 of 29 Old 01-01-2013, 11:09 PM
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I don't think it is a matter of hurting anyone's feelings, in my case I was afraid you would get someone hurt! As has been stated, most folks do not have the ability to deal with every situation, and to advise them to always work out the kinks is a bit irresponsible. Live and learn. I think you have.

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post #25 of 29 Old 01-01-2013, 11:13 PM
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Most definitely. :) Thanks

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post #26 of 29 Old 01-01-2013, 11:13 PM
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Let's not hijack the thread. Right now we are talking about ruxpinsam's dilemna .

First of all, with regard to your boyfriend's comment about losing money:
the amount of time and bother it will cost you to sell the gelding is something to consider. If you have a ready buyer, even if they are not paying top dollar, you should weigh the convenience of this against the possible gain of trying harder/longer to sell on the open market. Time IS money.

Secondly, do not let the size of the mare scare you. some 17 hh horses are just so wonderful to ride. they can be very gentle and very solid feeling. It's actually harder to stay over a squierrely 14 hh horse than over the same squierrely 17 hh. I mean, you have more wiggle room before you fall off.
On the other hand, once a big horse's engine kicks in, it can be a lot to deal iwht. I only wanted to say that just becuase a horse is big does not mean they are more challenging. I am riding a 17 hh horse and other than the challenge of mounting, I ADORE the big lug.

Leasing a horse , if the owner is someone you click with, can be very reassuring , especially if you want a little morale support, or if you have questions. Would the owner be available to you and could she give you some lessons?


The way you "click' with the horse is much more important than the size. And the human relationship , with the owner, if good, can be a wonderful help to a person who struggles with confidence.
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post #27 of 29 Old 01-01-2013, 11:16 PM
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Very true tinyliny

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Let's not hijack the thread. Right now we are talking about ruxpinsam's dilemna .

First of all, with regard to your boyfriend's comment about losing money:
the amount of time and bother it will cost you to sell the gelding is something to consider. If you have a ready buyer, even if they are not paying top dollar, you should weigh the convenience of this against the possible gain of trying harder/longer to sell on the open market. Time IS money.

Secondly, do not let the size of the mare scare you. some 17 hh horses are just so wonderful to ride. they can be very gentle and very solid feeling. It's actually harder to stay over a squierrely 14 hh horse than over the same squierrely 17 hh. I mean, you have more wiggle room before you fall off.
On the other hand, once a big horse's engine kicks in, it can be a lot to deal iwht. I only wanted to say that just becuase a horse is big does not mean they are more challenging. I am riding a 17 hh horse and other than the challenge of mounting, I ADORE the big lug.

Leasing a horse , if the owner is someone you click with, can be very reassuring , especially if you want a little morale support, or if you have questions. Would the owner be available to you and could she give you some lessons?


The way you "click' with the horse is much more important than the size. And the human relationship , with the owner, if good, can be a wonderful help to a person who struggles with confidence.

Thank you for your input, I agree that I should not be discouraged because of the mares size but it is just a little shocking.

I am just going to keep looking at horses until I get on one and I feel completely comfortable.
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post #29 of 29 Old 01-02-2013, 10:08 PM
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The right horse for you will be out there somewhere, ruxpinsam.

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