Gees. Today, I was working w my mare. Then, I decided to work w my new filly. I didn't want to tie or pen my mare b/c she is still dealing w the emotional distress of me giving any attention to the new arrival and she can make a big production when subjected to watching me one-on-one w the new squirt. So, lightbulb, instead I wanted DH to hold her and keep her company and/or busy. DH has zero interest in horses, but is a real sweetheart about helping me and I shouldn't complain but I will. Generally, he helps by handing me stuff, feeding, whatnot...nothing too "interactive" w the horses themselves. But, you would think he could hold my mare for 20 minutes w/o a problem! So, I hand DH my mare, a fairly well trained horse, and off I went w the filly. I was pretty focused on the filly when I looked over and my mare was dancing around and in general looked aggitated. I ask DH what was wrong, and he said he didn't know but she was acting strange and had kicked. Well, end of training session for the filly, I switched horses w him. My mare immediately calmed down and seemed normal. So, I put both horses up and grilled DH, "what did you do to her?" He kept saying nothing, that he had just asked her to move her behind and she kicked. I just could not believe that was "all", so I kept asking. Finally, he said he just asked her to move her hind end the same way as I do and she kicked. So, I asked him exactly how did you ask? He illustrates on his own body that he "pushed" her lightly right "there"...the FLANK on her tickle spot. I was dumbfounded...WTH, I asked him WHY would you do that? Most any horse will kick or worse! He said he didn't know that. I fired him right then and there! Oh, and I told him btw, I do not make contact of any sort w her body when I ask her to move her hindquarters! Why would you think I do? Oh, he said, he thought I did. For the love of christmas, why? So, all of those times he was watching whilst puddling on his iphone or whatnot he really wasn't watching. Well, he was trying to help, I suppose.
I calmed down and figured out that I couldn't fire him. This is distressing, having help that is no help that you can't fire. Great.
End of complaining session. If your DH is the best hand w a horse this side of the Pecos...I don't want to hear about it. But, if they are no help at all...I would love to hear about it for no other reason than to feel I am not the only one on the planet w no help for help!!!