Well, what an unsympathetic crowd.
I have seen few horses that will not involuntarily respond to pressure near their "individually located" point of the hip, what I call the tickle spot on the flank. I train all my horses, including my mare, to move any part of their body that I "decisively" point
at - not
touch. There is no need for my needs to try and train involuntary responses out of them. I had asked him to keep her busy/company. He, I suppose, got bored and was asking her to do things he has seen me do. Only, he hadn't paid close enough attention during the multitude
of times he has seen me ask one of my horses to move some part of their body one way or the other to notice I point
touch. There was no "need" for him to have her move her hindquarters. I suppose
it was my fault for not tellng him to just
hold her, do not ask her to do anything.
But, point well taken...DH is a saint.
Honestly macpack, you know how to hurt a person.
I almost never
ask him to hold my horses or interact in any way, only this was a special case. She stands tied just fine except at this point in time which I expect will quickly pass. I just needed a little
help. I incorrectly assumed he could hold my sweet lovable mare
w/o an incident after all these years of being w me and my horses. There have been dozens if not hundreds of times I "wished" I could ask him to do some simple task - but didn't b/c I knew it would be above his pay grade and potentially dangerous. It was the frustration of asking him to help this one time
which I firmly believed he could manage.
At least he has learned enough to notice it is like "night and day" (his words) between holding my untrained filly (which he has done w/o incident for a minute or less at at time) vs my mare. My mare is far from "difficult" to hold.
I will make a note of it: re-hire DH, apologize, have him sainted, provide/offer him more training.
Come on guys...its frustrating to have a non-horsey DH! He isn't the victim here.
Either way, thank you all, it has forced me to rethink my perspective.<<sigh>>