I recently bought a new mare. Her name is bella and she is very green. We've been jumping for a month or so now, but I can't manage to relax and I can not figure out what I can do to help her and me relax. Any advice?
Seriously. Get her in a straight line, get in your half seat before the jump, and close your eyes. It'll make you wait for the jump and you won't be anticipating it.
I know it sounds scary, but I made my friend do this who just started jumping a few months ago. (She has been riding for about 8 years, just never jumped.) She kept getting anxious about the jumps, so I made her close her eyes. It was the best jump she ever had, and now any time she gets nervous, she closes her eyes just before she gets to the jump.