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He's not his he's mine!

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#1 ·
Just a little peeve of mine. *pee now this might be lengthy*

So everyone knows the story of Kevin and Sammy right? If you don't here's long story short, if you do feel free to skip this: I bought Sammy for Kevin who had hired me as his trainer, was going to reimburse me in two payments for purchase of the horse plus 20% finders fee (lesson learned I'll have a written contract for the next client). The minute I get Sammy to the barn Kevin doesn't want him, says he's afraid of horses, then he only wanted a horse to get into girls pants ( WHAT!!!!),refuses to reimburse me for the horse and disappears. I freak and finally find a half lease to cover my butt until I can get back on my toes from this. Found a half lease/lesson student for Sammy, she's wonderful. Kevin is now legally not allowed near the barn, me, or my animals especially (and it's in writing he's not allowed near Sammy).


Ok. So my sister (just a very close childhood friend sister like) emails me and lets me know Kevin still has pictures of Sammy on his facebook. At first I shrug it off, then I go look and not only does he have pictures but now they say he's HIS horse, AND there are people commenting saying he's so lucky to have a horse and all that. That bothers me because that's my horse, not his. What if they want to ride him? They can't, he's mine, I don't share green horses with "oooo he's pretty" people. I don't have Kevin as a friend on facebook and messaged him asking him nicely to either please correct people or delete the images. No response, nothing happens, their still up today. One of my students notices this and comments nicely after an "awww you have a horse that's so cute!" comment, that "well he did have a horse but because of his inexperience and work/money issues he decided it best to turn the ownership over to the trainer" She tagged Sammy as mine as well. No response, no come back from Kevin, nothing which is a good thing I think. I guess the comment bothered my student too.

I know it shouldn't bother me but he's not allowed near the horse, he didn't want the horse for anything but to get girls in the first place (which he lied about until I had the horse at the barn), and bottom line Sammy is NOT HIS HORSE. I have it in writing from the seller that he's in my name and she received the money FROM ME. On top of that, according to my sister Kevin can't figure out for the life of him why he got a legal letter saying to stay away from me and my animals. He doesn't see anything wrong with what happened. AND he's been fishing through my friends list, found the girl who leases him and has been harassing her about the horse. She's repeatedly told him to leave her alone and he just recently stopped contacting her.

Sorry for the novel. I had to get it off my chest. I'm not asking for advice or anything. I'm just complaining.
 
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#3 ·
I'd be upset too. You went through a lot of time, effort and money to get the horse! Definitely chalk it up to a lesson learned and hopefully you won't have to deal with him anymore. Hang in there!
 
#4 ·
Unfriend him. If he just wanted a horse to get girls, that is what he is doing now. "Yeah, baby, I've got a horse, maybe I'll let you ride him if you're nice to me." If you can't read that stuff, it won't upset you. He is not allowed at the barn anyway, and if any stranger shows up to ride Sammy, you can let her know that she has been used and misinformed. No one allowed on him but you and the girl who leases him.
 
#5 ·
Oh he hasn't been on my friends since May but that doesn't mean I can't still see everything on his page since it hasn't been set to private in his personal settings. It would almost be better if he'd block everything from outside of friends view because a lot of things on his page shouldn't be public view anyway.
I intend to set any stranger straight if one were to show up but it's the idea he's trying to use my horse as a panty getter. It really bothers me. I just really wish he'd do the right thing for once and take down the pictures of my horse. It's doing more harm than good on his end anyway. Especially if he does get a girl wanting to meet the horse.
 
#6 ·
You are making a big deal out of something that can be handled so much easier.

I know how this could bother you but the best countermeasure on something like this is the truth.

Simply write on your wall the exactly the circumstances that occurred WITHOUT embellishments so that anyone reading can make up their own minds. If you go all crazy over this I can guarantee that it will be you that will look bad..not him.

Drop any contact with him and DO NOT reply or respond to anything he may send other than "look on MY wall for the truth" and LEAVE it at that.

The quieter more sanely you appear the more credible you will appear.
 
#8 · (Edited)
Other than having a letter sent to him saying he needed to stay away from me and requesting he remove the photos I've had no contact with him. He's the one contacting my sister and my students who have nicely asked him to stop contacting them.
The letter was my dads idea. He's a retired lawyer and law professor and said because of his unpredictable violent nature he thought it best to keep him away from me and my animals. This side of him didn't turn up until the horse came into the picture and I wouldn't put it past him to do something nasty to Sammy.
All my information and pictures are private to only my friends so anyone looking on my page including him wouldn't be able to see anything other that I'm female in Washington State.
 
#9 ·
I should add I think i have a note on there about the whole thing when it happened and the few people (about 5?) we both know, know what happened and why.
I just feel sorry for whatever girl get's pulled in to him and then feels like an idiot when she finds out he doesn't really have a horse.
But yes all contact has been dropped.
 
#10 ·
What a jerk! I could never get involved with a guy like him (referring to the girls that like him because he 'has a horse'). Honestly, I think those girls are just a little bit ignorant for wanting to be with a guy just because he supposedly has a horse. Especially when they probably don't know anything when it comes to horses.
 
#11 ·
That's what bothers me and he's using my horse to do it. He's 21 going on 10 and that's not someone I want to deal with and the weird thing is that side of him didn't show up until after I had driven two hours to haul the horse to my barn. After a week of Sammy being at the barn he decided he didn't want him and gave me a paper saying was turned over to me. After that I found out he was telling girls if they wanted to go on date he had a horse they could ride.
Um nooooo that's my horse that you didn't want. Luckily I haven't heard anything for him or any girls asking to ride him.
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#12 ·
It's probably a good thing that he turned Sammy over to you because judging by his reasons for buying a horse, he probably wouldn't have done anything to take care of him.
That's good that their leaving you alone. I'd never be able to put up with them.
 
#14 ·
WHAT A JERK! I hope girls avoid him like the plague!
I hope you didnt pay alot for poor Sammy.
It's people like that idiot Kevin that are eroding the pillars of trust in our world. What a backstabber!
And I don't think you're being petty: He's a jerk. He doesn't DESERVE to have pics of any horse, especially one that belongs to you, up on his page! :evil:
I have a "friend" who I went hiking with last week--long story short, he got us lost. In the woods. At night. In the best place in the area to sight black bear. No flashlights, In shortsleeves in 30 degree weather. And he was annoying and insulting..And how HE has pics of MY dog that went hiking with us (and ultimately got us out of the woods) up on his facebook! Like she's his! Stupid Man-boy! :evil: I don't understand why guys want to take credit for something that's not theirs!
 
#15 ·
I didn't pay much for Sammy but he is worth more now considering the training I have put into him. however I couldn't let him go. He's such a sweaty with loads of potential. The girl who leases him from me loves him so he's in great care at our barn. People like Kevin make me sad and disappointed. In highschool he had great potential to be something wonderful and now he is trying to get girls by using a horse as leverage, lost his job for never showing up and I assume he's still a "weed eater" with whatever else passes under his nose. Very sad
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#16 ·
He is being a perv, but he isnt doing anything illegal unfortunately. Think of all the false information you see on the internet every day! You in your post said "My Sister", yes you clarified it, but its still not illegal to lie on the web!

I wouldnt think too far into it. Eventually it will catch on that he does not have a horse or he will catch the clap...

Does your barn signs have the owners name and phone number? Just make sure it says you!
 
#17 ·
Yes they have me on there under owner and number. There is always someone here as well that wouldn't let anyone other than the vet or farrier touch a horse without the owner being present.
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#18 ·
GOOD!!! And as a trainer you should have a few more eyes open than just the normal boarders. I know I am extremely protective of my trainer's lesson horses when she is away at shows and days off. Also I would tell the grooms (if you have them) to keep an eye out too.

The sucky thing is there is nothing you can do about the internet...the good thing is he is not bashing you, your horse, or your barn. All you need to do now is worry about the safety of the horse. I would sue the living pants off someone if they took my Lucy out of the stall without me knowing and something happened to her! (She is so hot, most likely something will happen to them)
 
#19 ·
We don't have any grooms but my trainer and her family live onsite and there are multiple people here during the day. Im normally at the barn from 1-9 so it's a good portion of my day. I'm hoping nothing happens and immhoping sammys big but and heels will give him a good wham if he ever were to open his stall door. When Kevin met Sammy it was a battle between the two and it almost always ended with him jumped away from a big foot. Sammy was good with everyone but him by the time he left and I think maybe Sammy knew Kevin didn't really want him.
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#20 ·
Jeez,what an asshat! He sounds like the definition of a total perv who's desperate for action by any means,including lying about a horse.

Might I suggest Facebook to get the pictures removed?If you click on a picture,near the bottom of it is a link that says REPORT THIS PHOTO.Then click the option on the bottom of the box that pops up saying IS THIS YOUR INTELLECTUAL PROPERTY? It then goes into detail about how to report a third party's property being used and what to do about it so the photos will be removed due to copyright.
 
#21 ·
What an idiot! I'm with ryssa on reporting it to Facebook and seeing if they'll have him take the picture(s) off or not and with your student posting that comment, hopefully people that see that will get a hint.
Good thing you got all the paperwork covered too, cya is what I always say.
 
#22 ·
I'll look into reporting it. I haven't looked recently to see if the pictures are still up but I doubt he has taken them down. Luckily by word of mouth I've heard he doesn't have current transportation so I don't need to worry my nights away that he's messing with my horse when I'm not there.
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