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    11-18-2011, 10:48 AM
holiday problems rant? also guidance appreciated

Background: we host the family gatherings for the holidays which brings anywhere from 20-40 relatives over.
We have animals and some of the relatives don't. So when they come over they really think all animals are lovey doovey and want attention. Where as most of my animals don't care for alot of attention.

So dilemma 1 rant/advice wanted
Since most of my relatives only see the horses on the holidays the adults will walk up to the fence and feed the horses so they come close. Ok I can deal with this. But when they think oh look the horse came to me I will go in the field and pet him... I get ticked. Its a safety hazard especially with my twh cross who will try to dominant ppl once they are in the field... as most of you know this is not good especially with people who have no idea what is going on.
So I put electric fencing over my wooden fencing more so for the people that come and try and give treats bc now the horses won't bother going near it... but they(ppl) still go in the field. Even with signs posted on the gates "do not go in field. Warning not safe." well these adults still go in there and every year my twh cross bites someone or gets close to kicking them. So I have put him into further fields each year to keep ppl from getting hurt.
Err how do I keep relatives out of my horses field. I have asked, I have put signs up, I changed fencing, and even put a padlock on the chain of the fence to gate. They climb the gate to get in... and even after accidents each year no one seems to care that I am being serious when I make remarks like my horse will kill you if go in there. (he is not a beginner horse and I don't treat him like one but others do and its getting extremely dangerous now.

Dilemma 2 rant/advice
So at these holiday party nightmares I have to give pony rides as well. I do not mind this at all. Especially since my cousin and sister help me pony the kids around on 3 horses one at a time. But we are having new part of the family over this year. How do I go about the safety and rules with them? I already plan on talking to all the kids before hand. But how do I prove I am serious if they don't listen besides them not riding. I am more concerned about when they are on the horse. How do I get them to listen when they already hit the highlight of actually getting on a horse.

Dilemma 3 advice
This will be the first year for the chickens to deal with so many kids at once. How do I keep the kids from chasing/torchering them? These 3 chickens want to be held and get attention but from experience the kids like to pick them up and throw them which I do not approve of.

As you see holidays are a nightmare for my besides my ranting how should I go about making it less stressful for them.
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    11-18-2011, 11:03 AM
Have someone else host the family get togethers from now on. No, I'm not joking.

If they can't be bothered to listen to your rules, then they don't come to visit, period.

It's not fair to your critters to have a bunch of ignorant buffoons doing as they please on YOUR property with YOUR animals. Especially the kids slinging around the chickens. They'd get a boot in the rear and their parents would get a VERY nasty earful!

If you won't stand up for the welfare of your own animals, who else is going to do it? There would be hard, fast, and WRITTEN rules handed out to everyone, and if they didn't abide by them, they'd be asked to leave.

Yes, I'm a hard nosed witch but nobody, family included, messes with my animals! Your family is being disrespectful because you're allowing them to be. Stop it.
    11-18-2011, 11:10 AM
Rule one: no going into the field without being accompanied by yourself (or another horsey person).

Rule two: talk to everyone about the safety rules before they see the pretty ponies. Safety is paramount so tell them the rules and get them to recite them before mounting.

Rule three: no-one gets to touch the chickens without someone else there. Or at least drum it into their little heads that chickens are for petting and not for throwing. They aren't feathery footballs.

While it might be difficult to supervise them all but it's the best route to make sure everyone is safe and happy.
    11-18-2011, 11:13 AM
Speed racer - I totally agree!!! If it was my place and not my parents I totally would have kicked them all away a long time ago.

Gilly- thanks I tell them every year what the rules are. And the adults just laugh me away. I had my dad do it to once and they just ignored them. The kids are easier then the adults when it comes to the horses... I guess the size scared them... I think I will just hide the chickens in one of the stalls were the kids can't get them.. that might work
    11-18-2011, 11:21 AM
Green Broke
I'm sorry but throwing the chickens had me

But seriously LAY DOWN THE LAW. The only way it's going to get through to them is when someone gets kicked or seriously injured..
    11-18-2011, 11:28 AM
I have tried everything with laying down the law. I even handed out rules on a paper to everyone and hung it on the doors going out of the house.
    11-18-2011, 11:32 AM
Green Broke
Then honestly I wouldn't even give pony rides because if they can't respect your rules they obviously won't be respecting the horses either.
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    11-18-2011, 11:33 AM
Kait, I take it you're a minor? Yeah, that's a tough one, especially if your parents are going to back down from your moronic relatives.

Want me to come over and be the heavy? I do it really well. I can scare even grown men when I go off like a bottle rocket.
    11-18-2011, 11:36 AM
Speed racer haha I am techincally not a minor at 21 but at my house I sure do feel like one... :(
And I would love for someone to lay down the law. My aunt said she would and she is good at it...if I can get her to do it before anything happens. And I could only imagine you laying down the law I have a feeling people will quiver ;)

Cowgirl boots- its not the kids that are the problem they are kids and listen 90% of the time its the adults who think they are to good to listen to someone younger and don't think anything could happen to them... they honestly think they are gods gift to the world.. it drives me crazy!!!

And I forget to tell you cowgirl boots... its the 3 yo who thinks all birds should fly who picks them up and literally says your free chicken fly away.. its cute the first few times but it will get out of control with all the little kids lol
    11-18-2011, 11:42 AM
Okay, so you're an adult, but you and your critters live at home with the 'rents. Not an unusual living arrangement in this day and age.

Still, if your parents wimp out and let the relations do bloody well as they please, you're kind of stuck. That stinks.

I'd be letting my inner bitch out to play as soon as they stepped onto the property, considering their past performances.
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