My friend is joining horse 4-H, but doesn't have a horse - so I'm letting her 'borrow' mine. I am working with my other horse - brisco - who I would still love to work with, mainly for the experience and learning with working with different horses. Golley (the one I am 'lending') is now currently my horse. We are beginning to get that relationship that 'everybody' wants with their horses.... Well, I am also learning more things, and I want to start trying them with Golley - golley first because brisco is a HUGE pain in the butt sometimes. Well, what I am trying to say, is that I still want to use golley for 4-H. I've already done it for a year, but I want to keep doing it with him. But brisco is a pain, and I don't want to put my friend in all this pressure with a butt-horse. But I don't want to make her mad by telling her I want to keep on working with golley - but it also sounds selfish.
Does it sound selfish and should I let her keep working with him, or should I find a way to nicely say - I want to keep working with golley, but you can work with brisco.
Brisco is really bossy, and my friend is too 'soft' when it comes to horses, meaning she doesn't show 'who's boss.'
What should I do??