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post #1 of 8 Old 07-21-2012, 11:05 PM Thread Starter
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Horse with seperation problems

Bare with me, im not kidding. My horse (Dolce) has decided that he can't live without his girlfriend (star). He is completely content with life when he is with her, when hes not he hets stressed. He got beat by the other horses in the main pastures so he and star share a little lot. Well dolce and star got in a fight and he kicked her and injurrd her. (Im not kidding when i say this) Dolce has been depressed and crys all day for her, star is on stall rest for a month and Dolce has been upset. He cant focus about ANYTHING. Ive been hoping that it will become old news, but thats not looking possible. He has a new paddock buddie, but hes not content. Any soothing ideas??? Im completely serious, were trying to train and he just cant focus... All ideas appriciated:)
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post #2 of 8 Old 07-21-2012, 11:14 PM
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Long hours of consistent work. You have to work with him. Make him your buddy again. It will take time, but get his feet moving. Put him in a round pen and make him trot poles. Do trail exercises with him, just get him to focus on something else. If he resists, make him move. Otherwise he will keep pinning and it may or may not get better. My friend is working with a buddy sour green mare, and this girl is so sour she tried to rear up on me in an arena full of three other horses and riders to get to a horse she didnt know tied to a trailer outside of the arena. You just have to work with them to make them get over it, or theyll trot right over you.

Think of it not as a failure but as a success in how not to do it.

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post #3 of 8 Old 07-21-2012, 11:49 PM Thread Starter
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Cool, ok ill try it we did some work last night and he just wasnt himself, its like hes a different horse!
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post #4 of 8 Old 07-21-2012, 11:59 PM
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He is probably not in a thinking frame of mind. He needs to be reminded that he has a thinking brain, not just a fight or flight reaction one.

That barn sour green mare completely forgets there is a person around her and it is very scarey. She stomped me good one time and I am so glad I was wearing leather work boots. She stepped on the high part of my arch and bruised me nicely. She completely and utterly loses her head! She is such a sweet mare too. But my friend has had some improvement with her already by just grinding down and working with her. It isnt pleasant but if you want to get somewhere with your horse you have to just work with him and remind him he has a leader in you. Good luck with him. :)
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post #5 of 8 Old 07-22-2012, 10:51 AM Thread Starter
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yeah, he isn't a difficult horse to deal with. He is just ... sad. Hes just fine when the attention is on you, he is a new horse at the barn and star was his only "friend". You can tell a difference when hes in his stall, and in the pasture. Its really an odd thing. Its like he isn't present?
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post #6 of 8 Old 07-22-2012, 01:53 PM
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Try and get him to focus on other things than Star. Give him work to do
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post #7 of 8 Old 07-22-2012, 02:41 PM
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Quit focusing on horse's feelings, and work with him as a horse.

If you don't? You won't get anywhere with him.

You aren't asking enough of this horse, if he has time to fret when you are handling him. Toughen up on him and make him realize there are FAR WORSE things than missing his buddy.

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post #8 of 8 Old 07-22-2012, 05:30 PM Thread Starter
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I care about his feeling just as much as his work. A happy horse will make his work fun, i want him to be happy with himself. I have first hand experience with this. It can make a difference between a good horse and an amazing horse. Ill take the time to keep him happy, you might not. If so don't post.
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