I would just assign whatever health care I want for my horse, as long as I pay for it. Why would yout bf even bother that YOUR horse receives such help?..
I've had some interesting times. As we were preparing for the horse fair, me and Snickers overdid it big time and damaged some of our relationships and connection. I was too much about the results and too little about how fast and how comfortable can he gain them, so I woke up to see him bracing and negative against any pressure. Well, we all have bad days... So I decided not to show in the horse fair, instead going back to some basics, to retrieve what I had lost in the way. The rest of the team are still going, but we are already doing better, step by step, little by little. This taught me a LOT about Snickers and myself.
Btw, he thought of a genius way of training ME at one point, which was when I understood that we were going south. As soon as my energy became too "loud" and my cues - too unprecise, he'd just face me and stand, not moving a muscle no matter what I did. But, as soon as I thought it over and started anew, much calmer and precise, he became 100% responsive again. He had to do it a couple of times until I understood, and boy I was ashamed afterwards...
But I value immensely that he likes me enough to think that it is worth training me, not just running away.
Now, after some nice training sessions, we're back to working at liberty slowly.