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        11-24-2012, 08:51 PM
      #2491
    Foal
    Hi I am Lisa from the cold state of Wisconsin. I own one horse bought him a year ago and have only been riding for five years. We do barrel racing was brave and took him on as I was just learning the barrels myself. I have a question does anyone find it really difficult to date another or have a relationship with a non horse person?? I just broke up with my ex after two years and part of the reason was bc he said I spend too much time with my horse. Any thoughts and opinions are welcomed just be nice. Lol
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        11-24-2012, 09:01 PM
      #2492
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by Runninghot88    
    Hi I am Lisa from the cold state of Wisconsin. I own one horse bought him a year ago and have only been riding for five years. We do barrel racing was brave and took him on as I was just learning the barrels myself. I have a question does anyone find it really difficult to date another or have a relationship with a non horse person?? I just broke up with my ex after two years and part of the reason was bc he said I spend too much time with my horse. Any thoughts and opinions are welcomed just be nice. Lol
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    Hi Lisa! Welcome to the group :)
    In my experience, I actually prefer to be with a non-horse person. I have very strong opinions on how I believe things should be done with my horses, and for me, having someone as part of my life who really doesn't have an opinion at all makes things a lot easier.
    Yes, sometimes it is hard to balance the two lives, but I have been with my better half for a year and a half, and it works for us because he loves the outdoors too, and I am fortunate enough to board at a tiny stable in the middle of nowhere, so he likes coming out just to enjoy the serenity. Or he just stays at home when I go. And that works for us.
    I think no matter whether you are dating a horse person or not it just comes down to how well you two can work together and make sacrifices that are okay for you.
    Input from my bf: "you have to value each others likes and dislikes, and it comes down to compromise. She deals with my hobbies, so I deal with hers :)"
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        11-24-2012, 09:06 PM
      #2493
    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by Runninghot88    
    Hi I am Lisa from the cold state of Wisconsin. I own one horse bought him a year ago and have only been riding for five years. We do barrel racing was brave and took him on as I was just learning the barrels myself. I have a question does anyone find it really difficult to date another or have a relationship with a non horse person?? I just broke up with my ex after two years and part of the reason was bc he said I spend too much time with my horse. Any thoughts and opinions are welcomed just be nice. Lol
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    Haha, my opinion? Find a man who likes trucks. :) When you own horses, you either already have a truck and trailer or you want them :) My husband has his truck to work on, I have horses. We each get an 'allowance' and I spend mine on horses and he spends his on mods for his truck. Works out great for both of us.
         
        11-24-2012, 09:26 PM
      #2494
    Started
    Mine is as much into horses as I am - but that didn't stop him being all jealous and sulky when I referred to Brock as "my baby"! And while he does nag me a fair bit at least I know his worries aren't the silly sort some non-horse partners have - he is also great for a reality check when I get above my head!

    Besides, there's nothing more attractive for me than a guy who can really ride
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        11-24-2012, 10:53 PM
      #2495
    Foal
    I've been with my significant other for 4 years now, and the first time he ever saw a horse in person was with me when we started dating. I was up front with him that horses are a part of my life and always will be. After he proposed, I told him that marrying me means that someday we're going to have land and horses, so he knew what he was getting in to. I really like that he is a non-horsey person because I can teach him about things that he doesn't know about. We both have our different hobbies and it is nice to be able to have some time apart where we do different things, and then can talk about new experiences. It keeps us so we always have something new to talk about, and we're always learning new things.
         
        11-24-2012, 10:57 PM
      #2496
    Green Broke
    I'd just be happy with a good guy, horses or no.

    I rode Rosie yesterday, went really good, I think I have my "nerve" back
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        11-24-2012, 11:29 PM
      #2497
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    Yay Saskia!! Sadly we're all at that age in our twenties where we start to realise that we're not invincible...I really wish I was still a teen sometimes! Erm, well, except for all the emotional turmoil and pimples and oily hair and arguments with parents...

    I was 23 when I lost my nerve and it took months for it to come back - I still don't feel as confident as I once did, but riding through Brock's "bad" stage and having been bucked off a lot last year really helped in a weird way, because none of the falls were bad and I tend to get the feeling once again that I can deal with anything a horse throws at me because Brock's tried every trick in the book (except rearing, and I refuse to deal with that - no thank you!!).
         
        11-25-2012, 12:04 AM
      #2498
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by Runninghot88    
    Hi I am Lisa from the cold state of Wisconsin. I own one horse bought him a year ago and have only been riding for five years. We do barrel racing was brave and took him on as I was just learning the barrels myself. I have a question does anyone find it really difficult to date another or have a relationship with a non horse person?? I just broke up with my ex after two years and part of the reason was bc he said I spend too much time with my horse. Any thoughts and opinions are welcomed just be nice. Lol
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    Hi Lisa, I've been with the same guy for the last 2.5 years and there are times when it can be challenging. He's not a horse person and is extremely allergic to boot. He wasn't too pleased when I told him I was going to breed my mare in the spring, mostly because he didn't know what was involved, costs, etc. but after talking it through, and explaining things to him, he's ok with it. We both have our own hobbies; he plays golf in summer and plays hockey in winter, and where possible, tries to schedule his activities on the same nights that I go out to the barn. I've made it pretty clear that if he ever made me choose between him and horses, he would lose!!
         
        11-25-2012, 12:30 AM
      #2499
    Yearling
    Also, you mentioned you're from the cold state of Wisconsin. I'm from the land of the ice and snow in province of Alberta and nearly froze my fingers off taking pictures of Lilly in the paddock today. It's in the -20's (Celsius) with the wind. But I took some wintry pictures posted below. Anyone else have some furry winter bears to share?


    Escaped from the paddock and darn pleased with herself.
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    Trying to beat me back to the gate left open.
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    Lilly in all her hairy glory.
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    Trouncing through the snow.
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    Her Movember snow-stache.
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        11-25-2012, 12:39 AM
      #2500
    Green Broke
    The whole partners thing is tricky. Horses take up a lot of time, and that's fine when it your life. But when you choose to have a partner its not just your life anymore, it's theirs as well. And that doesn't mean you give up yourself, but you have to consider them as well. If you work full time, then go see your horse, go home, watch tv and go to bed, well that's not much of a life for your partner. Spending hours on weekends riding etc.

    Obviously not all riders lives are like that. But I know if I dated a guy whose hobby took up hours a day, weekends and holidays, well I don't know if I'd stick around. Especially if he turned around and said, "if you made me choose between "x" and you, you wouldn't win" which is what a lot riders say.

    I don't know what I'm saying. When I was younger and dating (I'm not old now but I'm a lot more selective and hermit-ish) I was very straight down the line, horses come first, this is what I do, tag along if you like but don't complain about it. But in retrospect, its not the best way to act. Its not how I'd like to be treated, and its not like how I'd want a relationship to be.

    If I wouldn't choose my partner over my horses then why would I want to spend the rest of my life with them? Why bother dating? And if I could say something like that to them... well that's pretty nasty, if they've chosen to share their lives with me.

    When I find someone, eventually, they won't have to be into horses, but they're going to have to be into the lifestyle I want. A property with animals, horses around, spending my money on stuff like that. My place in the world.

    Anyway, so this is my completely pointless post for the day...sooo hot
         

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