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Horse talk for 20-somethings

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So the young whippersnapper teenagers :)-P) get their own forum, and the mature folk over 40 get their own thread so I thought I'd make one for us 20-somethings.

So how goes the 20-somethings on this here Horse Forum?

I guess I should introduce myself as I'm a serial ninja member just reading and not posting. The name is Jess, I live in Australia and have dressage lessons once a week. I study psychology and have been riding "properly" since I was 19. One day, preferably before pension age, I hope to own my own horse. Alas, it's not the right time now.

Discuss dreams, vent, celebrate achievements and all things in between!
 
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How did I not see this thread before? Hi everyone, I'm Allie and I'm 23. I've been riding since I was 10. I recently started at a new barn because of some issues at my old barn. My boyfriend is very supportive of my riding. He comes to all of my shows and some of my lessons and takes pictures of me riding. That's all for now I guess.
 
#130 ·
Okay so my name Tricia im 21 and I have ridden a gaited horse for the past 4 years. Rode him in English and never received any lessons or anything. so last year I just purchase my 4 year old Swedish warmblood and he's currently in training with a dressage instructor who has serious ambitions for where she sees him in the next 3 years. She wants me to find him a young rider so we can show him in all the classes, but I'm not going to lie I'm a little bummed about it. I financially have no other option but it bums me out that someone else is going to partially take over my horse.. I know this sounds selfish of me.. :( not that I have a big problem learning from someone younger I guess being i own the horse it should be the other way around.. Does this make sense.. Sorry for the ramble but it's really been bothering me!! Am I just over reacting? I feel like I'm going to be loosing a bond with my horse if more people keep entering his life ya know?
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#131 ·
Hi Allie :) Hey Tricia

Tricia, I felt the same way.. but it's good for your horse to get ridden by different people so they gain confidence and adapt to the different weight changes. You're allowed to feel that pang of "he's mine..." and you have a right to decline people and pick out one that really works for your horse.

It'll all work out :) You always need to be the one deciding though.
 
#132 ·
Sure - here we are performing at a neofolk festival in Lithuania - this is a Lithuanian song, though. I'm the singer. We're no superstars, but we enjoy what we're doing. :) Also, the quality of the videos and thus, sound, is not too good, sorry for that. We have a CD, but we don't have the records online.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aVHen8aUxo

And a couple more at a local club -

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OunrwJblY7w&feature=relmfu

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J18IxLQSOFI&list=UUcpL1btXH7aNRYI2CQmswqQ&index=1&feature=plcp

The style involves a modern and darker look on mythology, rather monotonous vocals, simple melodies. We're the only neo-folk band in our country.
 
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And there is nothing wrong with that at all! If a man comes along that you want to marry, you'll know it. It's kinda intuitive ya know?

Until then, ENJOY being single! Especially the freedom to do what you want and not have to worry about what anyone else is doing, or thinking. lol
 
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Oh, I sure enjoy being single. And I am mostly a loner anyway, not exactly a social type. I will wait for somebody strong and wise enough to be able to cope with me and my herd of animals. :D
 
#137 ·
I've been single for a looong time and I love it. Just not ready to have my scheduled life interrupted. If it happened now it'd be a disaster so fingers are crossed it happens when I'm all settled in at home with my horse and a good job :D

But in the meantime I'm happy for all of you married couples :) That must feel out of this world amazing, yet crazy at times. Still, wow!

And now going to bed as it is 3:31am :P whoops. Have a wonderful day everyone!!
 
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Ha, good night Sky! Yeah, wow for those that are married. I could not do that right now. I feel like between work, school, and pets there is not a whole lot of time. I am sure for the right person there is time. Thats not to say I don't have a kind, devoted, funny and smart man in my life. I have a labrador and a cat.

Saranda thats a really cool that you sing in a band. I have no clue what you were singing but it was pretty!
 
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hehe Saranda I said the same thing when I was single. I just didn't know he'd show up so dang fast :shock:

I never really thought about "not having time" for a bf or whatever. Simply because I figured if he was the right one for me, he would understand my time commitments and work around them, as I would for him. Turns out him and I like to do a lot of the same things, and although we were both extremely busy with work and school when we were dating, we found spare time when we wanted to and did things we both enjoyed.

When you find that person you truly love, it is not hard to find quality time. Heck my husband and I barely see each other, most of our hours together are spent running errands. But once again, when you love each other, it doesn't matter what you are doing, it's just nice to talk and catch up. Plus idk, there is just something comforting about having a steady "crash area" at home when the rest of your life is insane! It's nice knowing someone always has your back.
 
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Thanks, rookie, glad somebody enjoys our music. :) And yes, we sing in Latvian and Lithuanian, so I guess nobody here will understand the lyrics.

Oh, and I like gaming, too. So really not much time left for relationships between my horse, my cats, my work, other hobbies and sleeping. :D
 
#141 ·
Well technically my bf and I don't have a lot of time together. We don't go out on dates very often mostly due to cost. We live together and share expenses so we are basically married just don't have that official title. So life is busy and will get even busier once I go back to school.

I do enjoy the times when he is gone though (don't tell him that). At first I wasn't so sure about his career and as much as he would be gone. But now I'm glad when I get to just hang out with my horse or my dog and watch what ever show I want to on tv and not do a thing.

I had basically given up on dating when a mutual friend set us up on a blind date. And well from there on out I knew I would marry him someday...eventually.
 
#143 ·
Hey everyone. Im Briana outside of here. 23, 24 in august. I live in lovely hot florida. But i can watch a sunrise and sunset on water. I own 3 appaloosas. Ive been riding since before I could walk. And training for about 3 yrs now. I used to run barrels, now i do cate work. And i love it.
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haha don't feel bad about enjoying the time when he is gone. I do the same thing. I can get some of my own stuff done, and don't have to worry about what he is doing. Sometimes he goes away for "guy weekends" and I do a girl weekend. Its a blast for both of us, and a good refresher for our tolerance of one another :wink:

As far as dates, don't get me started. I think I have been on about 5 traditional "dates" total in our entire relationship. We've never been to a movie, never to a fancy restaurant. We go fishing, or shooting, or hiking, or even to McDonald's drive through. :lol: It's not always exclusive either, we hang out with a lot of people. We don't have a lot of money, so we just enjoy being around each other without spending money. It's the little things.
 
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Hehe just finished an awesome nap that he never lets me take because he gets bored lol. Although its much to hot out to do much else. We have one 'fancy' restaurant we go to for our anniversary or birthdays and that's about it. We are trying to save money for a house and then a wedding so I'm not allowed to spend anything extra. It sucks but I hate apartment life.

So who else never has money and has to refrain from buying all kinds of stuff for our animals? Only a few more years til I'm done with school so I can make more money.
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#147 ·
Ahh I know. My local feed store should offer a rewards program, seriously. I haven't bought anything for myself at all this year. My horse is literally eating all my money. And apparently I'm one of the few that pays the vet right away?! I don't like owing people money. But I'm pretty sure I spent less money at the mall then I do on my horse. Oops.
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Poppy - I understand the whole not having time together thing. It sucks a lot. Between two horses, a boy friend, a full time job and college I've got my plate more than full. ): We manage to make it work though and that's all that matters. Also, the whole $$$ thing, yeah. I have a tack hoarding problem. LOL. All my money goes to the same place.

Sky - I feel the same I've been through almost 10 saddles now trying to find one that fits, I know this one fits don't want it to be a horrible choice though. Uhg, saddle fitting is a pain.

Fai - Those tattoos are SO cute, do you have rings? Or are those in place of that?

For the fourth I'm going to relax at the barn, fireworks are tonight here. At work now, off at 8 then going with my man. Should be a blast!
This thread moves so fast I can barely keep up! :)
 
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hm, can't seem to make the 'multiple quote' thing work. Anyway -

Saranda - you guys sound awesome! I wish I could understand what you were singing!

Annanoel - we do have rings too, we only got the tattoos this past year. We haven't worn them since getting the tattoos though! We're still deciding what to do with them - they're still very sentimental, maybe made into something else or just kept safe somewhere. They look kind of silly with the tattoos peeking out underneath them, and the tattoos just feel so much more suited to us.

And I understand your saddle pain... I'm just in the process of sending one back and ordering something else. Unfortunately all the tack shops in my area are SADLY understocked and generally not very nice or helpful. So I order just about everything online. Can you try the Billy Cook saddle on your horse before committing?
 
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Hi Ashleigh! I like your horse's name. My horse is Onyx, but I call him nyx for short :D
Sometimes it seems those young ones are the hardest, they try our patience. I remember feeling the same way when I bought my 6 month old filly. They are long yearlings and your like "can you just grow up already?!"
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(i think I screwed up my quote thingy ;/)

Haha thats awesome onyx like the pokemon!?
Oh Yeh nyx really test my patients lol she is a very smart cunning little thing. But I get around that by always keeping her mind busy on different things :) she is two next month which is when I was gunna start breaking her BUT she is still light framed and got a bit of growing to go so waiting another year! ;/ so Yeh, just grow up already!!!! Haha :)
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Haha thats awesome onyx like the pokemon!?
Oh Yeh nyx really test my patients lol she is a very smart cunning little thing. But I get around that by always keeping her mind busy on different things :) she is two next month which is when I was gunna start breaking her BUT she is still light framed and got a bit of growing to go so waiting another year! ;/ so Yeh, just grow up already!!!! Haha :)
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Yeah it really is difficult to wait!
As far as Onyx goes, I never thought of a pokemon! lol. He was named that before I bought him, and it fits him. Plain black grade gelding with an attitude :wink:

Well Lakota, i'm happy for u and cograts on being pregnant, wishing you the best of luck!!! Usually around here when you get married young there is a big reason, and its not a favorite custom around here.
The way our story went is that Hubby and i were best friends in high school, and then we graduated, and lost touch for a year. Then i split with my ex cuz he was jealous of my horses (no surprise there) And after about 2 weeks of talking and hanging out and helping him rebuild his grandparents house after it burnt, we got together. So after about 1 1/2 years we decided we wanted to get married, and we were planning all of this and about 2 months before our wedding, i found out i was pregnant (i was not at all happy about it at the time, plus i was mega ***** and demanded ice cream LOL) *i was 16-18 wks when i found out* Once i started getting used to the idea, i knew we weren't ready, and was heart broken cuz i wanted to wait. Well we got married in NOV, and 6 days after our wedding i lost the baby at 24wks. (bring on the sadness, sorry) It was horrible, i didn't think we would make it thru, but we have and we're still going well and strong. I was sooo depressed after all this happened, and i still had my two older geldings to take care of. Because they were older i didn't do too much with them, and i hinted i wanted another horse. And just like that i found my paint mare on the net, and she was close to home, and at a reasonable price for being unbroken. He got her for me for Valentine's day, tho she didn't come home till april cuz of the weather. She helped pull me through my depression, along with my geldings. She is my angel, along with my loving husband. Its been hard, and i would like to start barrel racing again (the main reason i wanted her), but she's also become my other best friend.
I never thought i could be so happy, and have a husband who likes horses, and supports me any way he can (plus he claims 2 of my horses LOL). Its not a pretty story, and not a very happy one...but there it is.. :) *Its ok, i know its going to be a shocker,and your going to tell me its horrible, but i have my horses and friends and family and the forum for support ;) YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME!!!
WOW that is quite a story! Glad you found such a supportive husband to help you through all of that, it had to to be so hard.

I too have had my share of rough times, and my husband helped me through some of the hardest ones. It really sucks going through it, but when its over, it's amazing how much it strengthens the relationship.

The tattoos weren't exactly painless, but I've had worse. My foot tattoo hurt way more than the finger tattoo did. I have seven - the one on the back of my neck was probably the least painful, almost felt like someone was drawing with a pen.
I have one on the top of my foot, that covers almost the entire thing. That thing hurt like a mother! But it was worth it!

As far as a horse goes, I like em responsive, I can't stand lazy or dumb horses. Smart and challenging is how I like them, it keeps you on your toes :wink:

Oh and to comment on the "men" subject. I agree, don't ever settle! When you know, you know. If you're not sure, then don't assume, or settle. Marriage is hard enough, and it takes work on both people's part. Sure it's great when your married to someone you "feel at home" with, but man I can't imagine being married to someone I didn't jive with. If in doubt, there is no rush!

Okay now for my question: Where are all the 20 something men on the forum hiding? We need some male input. LOL
 
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#152 ·
Hi guys! Joining this thread... for a little bit longer at least. :)

I'm Katie, I'm 28, and I live in Oklahoma. I've been married for almost 4 years (yikes!), and we have two dogs and a horse. I started riding when I was ten and continued until I was 18, but I had to quit when I went to college. Life got in the way after that, but a little over two years ago I got back into horses and haven't looked back!

I look forward to chatting with all of you. :)
 
#155 ·
Well Lakota, i'm happy for u and cograts on being pregnant, wishing you the best of luck!!! Usually around here when you get married young there is a big reason, and its not a favorite custom around here.
The way our story went is that Hubby and i were best friends in high school, and then we graduated, and lost touch for a year. Then i split with my ex cuz he was jealous of my horses (no surprise there) And after about 2 weeks of talking and hanging out and helping him rebuild his grandparents house after it burnt, we got together. So after about 1 1/2 years we decided we wanted to get married, and we were planning all of this and about 2 months before our wedding, i found out i was pregnant (i was not at all happy about it at the time, plus i was mega ***** and demanded ice cream LOL) *i was 16-18 wks when i found out* Once i started getting used to the idea, i knew we weren't ready, and was heart broken cuz i wanted to wait. Well we got married in NOV, and 6 days after our wedding i lost the baby at 24wks. (bring on the sadness, sorry) It was horrible, i didn't think we would make it thru, but we have and we're still going well and strong. I was sooo depressed after all this happened, and i still had my two older geldings to take care of. Because they were older i didn't do too much with them, and i hinted i wanted another horse. And just like that i found my paint mare on the net, and she was close to home, and at a reasonable price for being unbroken. He got her for me for Valentine's day, tho she didn't come home till april cuz of the weather. She helped pull me through my depression, along with my geldings. She is my angel, along with my loving husband. Its been hard, and i would like to start barrel racing again (the main reason i wanted her), but she's also become my other best friend.
I never thought i could be so happy, and have a husband who likes horses, and supports me any way he can (plus he claims 2 of my horses LOL). Its not a pretty story, and not a very happy one...but there it is.. :) *Its ok, i know its going to be a shocker,and your going to tell me its horrible, but i have my horses and friends and family and the forum for support ;) YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME!!!
 
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Thanks, seriously Sky i never thought i'd have such a wonderful person. And honestly i thought after high school, i wanted to go and start my career with horses, and move to canada LOL, i wanted to move so far away that no one could find me. But here i am now in middle of nowhere PA, with the love of my life. Gotta love how everything changes so fast, and sometimes for the better. Obviously the universe (my grandma's theory) had other plans for me/us!! :)
 
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