Originally Posted by Country Woman
my hubby is a computer programmer
An knows networking and how to fix problems
but he is outdated
my husband is a software test engineer. In my husband's case, the company was bought by a German company that started breaking the company down and selling it off piece by piece. He was the last man there for almost a year, one man in a warehouse sized area, all alone with his boss. Then his boss was laid off and then him. After that year of hoping to be assimilated by another division, he had lost his confidence and was a nervous wreck.
So he had some months with no work and when he was made an offer in another state, he grabbed it. He has to commute over two hours every day and he's not a kid. Plus he needed another car because we're in the North East and it was in the middle of winter and we couldn't afford to have him lose work because of his old car. So we had to get him a decent used car.
THis is not easy, this period of our lives. He's nervous, he's grouchy, but he can come home and relax and I'm here for him. But let me tell you, it's not easy from my end. But you know, this is where the marriage vows come in. That, and poverty. You don't up and leave when you're tethered to one another. ANd we are. Plus besides loving him, I do like him.
So I sell on ebay
. I scrimp and do what I can to ride horses because if I didn't I'd lose my mind. And if my husband loses this job we're screwed (the contract is - not up yet because it's open ended - but it's very vague - six to nine months OR more). He doesn't earn enough that we have been able to quickly save enough to hold us for a year, which is the common wisdom. I don't know if we'd last three months on nothing coming in.
So we worry about losing it all whatever "all" is. And you know what? I'd hate it but we'd do it because you don't have a choice. You do what you have to and him and me and the dogs would do something. We will live through this. We don't have a choice. We'll live.
I think Roosevelt said it about nothing to fear but fear itself and I think it applies to us all now. This is a time of fierce change and **** it, it's scary. So you're not alone. It's a crazy crappy time for Americans, for a lot of human beings on this earth. It's almost like all the money is going to a few people and that's crazy!.