Originally Posted by WeatheredtheStorm
I think we all can relate to the "uneasiness, uncertainty" we have all experienced while riding. My age, weight gain and my mobility have all made me a wee bit wary. I can't afford to get hurt; only one paying the bills. I try to work my horse on the ground if I feel unsure, even if I am already riding. I just step off and let him work around me at a quiet walk or jog. It not only works the horse and keeps him moving, settling him but gives me a chance to rethink, relax, reassure, and remain safe. My two geldings are not big spookers but they still can have their moments. My second gelding, Moses, the gray, was very abused around his head and he tends to get nervous if you raise your hand to wave or swat a fly. He is much better and I have never regretted buying him unexpectedly at a sale barn. He won me over with his loving eye and willing heart.
Very good point - when feeling unsure, get off and work on the ground. This has not failed me yet. I even got off in the middle of a lesson, letting my trainer know I was feeling uneasy and that it wasn't a good day to ride. He's such a supportive trainer, telling me to trust my women's intuition.