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post #3361 of 29437 Old 06-12-2012, 08:16 AM
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Thanks everyone. I just needed to rant. I know mom feels bad that they are on their own but she is concentrating on them so much she is pushing me away. I guess she figures I have Rob so I am taken care of BUT I am still their only child and its not so much about money, mom and dad helped me out when I was a single parent for years. I do know that my SIL would be in a better position if she downsized her vehicle (Which she LOVES and can't give up) and sold the trailer which she still is paying for and rarely uses. I used to have the same vehicle she has and I downsized because what it costs in gas. If it was me, mom would have no problem saying sell the truck and sell the horse but she can't say anything to SIL oh no. I think I would have more respect for SIL if she tried to improve her own situation rather than relying on my parents. She is always saying she can't afford this or that BUT...

Anyhoo I am done, thanks again.
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post #3362 of 29437 Old 06-12-2012, 08:16 AM
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I had a Pusher bred TWH that looked like your Cherokee...

Bluebelle (AKA Pusher's Coded Color"...)



Patsy's legs are cold and tight, not one puffy spot. We will let her out in the pasture today and see what we have this evening!!
Yay lets hope she stays sound
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post #3363 of 29437 Old 06-12-2012, 08:20 AM
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Hunter, I am sure I would feel aggrieved too.
I do not brood on things but have them out in the open No Nonsense Nancy that's me) Sit down and write a letter, put it all on paper and either send it or burn it. Either way it will make you feel better.

MY sister and B-I-L got into financial trouble with the first Gulf War (they were in Kuwait) Nothing went right for them and I know that my parents and I, helped them out financially and in anyway we could.
I will say that until that point my sister and I were not very close but it brought us together in a way that nothing could break now.
Later, my parents felt guilty that they had given them so much and nothing to me. My sister also felt this way, but it really did not bother me.
It did make things tough for me. The children came here for part of their school holidays so sis could carry on working, I bought them clothing, helped pay for school trips.
Things are on an even keel for them now but with both girls at university I still help them with books. I don't have to but I enjoy it (until I get my bank statement!)
In return I have had the privilege of being part of the children's lives. They are good young adults with an excellent work attitude and a compassion for those in need. They will do well in the world as decent human beings and the fact that I had a small part in shaping them gives me pride.

There is nothing as odd as families, as the saying goes "God gave us our families, thank Heaven we can choose our friends"

Money is the root of much trouble, it can lead to jealousy and rifts that never really heal.

Personally I couldn't give two hoots about it. Not because I am financially well off because I am not.

Perhaps your mother feels guilty that her son died leaving a family financially troubled.
Perhaps she feels that now he has passed that she will loose contact with her grandchildren and this way she has contact with them.
Who knows. I sure don't.

Hugs to you because it is not an easy time for you when hurt by those that you love.
Thanks Foxhunter I am going to write a letter. I have wanted to say something for some time but I can never figure out a way without me looking like the bad guy. It just pisses me off that I think she is taking advantage of them and they don't see it.
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post #3364 of 29437 Old 06-12-2012, 08:52 AM
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Hunter after my Daddy died, I saw sides of my family I wish I could forget.
(hugs)..

Horses are proof that God love's us and wants us to be happy!
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post #3365 of 29437 Old 06-12-2012, 10:14 AM
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Just popping in to say hi and give a Hank update.

He's lost all his baby teeth so he's officially at LEAST 6 months old.. a bit older than we thought, and he's growing and changing so fast. He's SMART .. and we started agility class last week .. he's doing fabulous.





He is ONE LUCKY DOG ... and we feel blessed to have adopted him.

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post #3366 of 29437 Old 06-12-2012, 11:27 AM Thread Starter
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Oh Wow Kim. I love all your horses, I am happy you were
There to rescue the chestnut
The other horse are beautiful

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awe Texas what a cute dog

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post #3368 of 29437 Old 06-12-2012, 11:47 AM Thread Starter
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Hunter I sort for know how you feel
When I was 18 months old l was put in a foster home
I had a sister who was 16 at the time. My parents were great to
Me. I was like their own but as I grew up I felt my sister resent me
She was the 'perfect' daughter and smart while I walked with a limp and
Had a hard time in school.
My sister had 3 boys and married. I had a daughter and I was not married
My sister never really accepted us, Sure we were invited to dinners and weddings but that was because of my parents and brother in law
I was never introduced as her sister, My sister was a nurse and BIl a Chartered Accountant. Was upset mom and dad gave me money
Things turned around when my parents passed away because I was a foster child I ended up with hardly anything my daughter got nothing
My sister got every thing even thought my parents said I did not have to worry
Then my sister told how much the house sold for and she got everything
But you know I an happy I have a loving husband and wonderful daughter
She is a Christian. I am also a Christian but I don't treat people that way

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post #3369 of 29437 Old 06-12-2012, 11:39 PM Thread Starter
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I hope this is ok

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post #3370 of 29437 Old 06-12-2012, 11:53 PM
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Susan - I am so glad to hear Patsy's legs are well! How is she doing tonight?

Kim - I love your herd! The Fjord is so cute, and your QH is a gorgeous grey!

CW - your story is heartbreaking, and it's so sad what money will do to people. You sure do find out the true character of some when they come into some money.


Had a training session with Kes today. She was heavier on the bit than our previous session. Our trainer thinks that she must have been ridden only in a curb and Weymouth the last few years for her to be so heavy in the snaffle. Tomorrow he's longlining her for me. With the little bump in the road, we won't be showing in dressage this show season, so have found a rated Morgan show at the end of the summer for our Hunter Pleasure class and will start working with her on getting ready for that as well. She's getting her pads and show plates this week so that we can start working on our show form. I'm pretty excited to have this goal out in front of us!

My journal of my re-entry back to the horse world http://shelooksgoodonahorse.blogspot.com/
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