CW you will find your horse And the best one to look at is the one that chooses you. By that I mean an animal with a few years on it has savy and can read humans and has developed its own preference. While we are looking for certian traits in the horse so it can perform in the sport we are interested in the first port of call is the eye of the horse.
If you establish it has a soft kind eye, what has it been used for, and is that what you want the horse for. I say this because it is a creature of habit and it's training may be well of the mark for what you want.
Oh, and while you are looking at the horse it is also checking you out. Your eyes first then your body language and it can read that to a fine degree and will act upon what it sees and senses.
My first horse Savannah was mine right from the first meeting. But having to change did me no favours. Stella came from a riding/treking company. 7 years old, was aloof, well schooled, but heard bound and used to following other horses but also an lead mare.
She has a kind eye but did not bond to me at all. That was because she had had to many riders. He attitude was walk turn get home and get the rider off. My work was cut out for me. Another factor in her behaviour was as all horses she could read my inner being. She new my emotions were still with Savannah and she reacted to it by remaing at arms length.
A horse will only bond around 3 times then its emotional wellbeing gets screwed up. A little like us. It is a herd animal they bond to each other and when we are the only other animal in its life it bonds to us.
Stella gave me all sorts of issues to deal with and on ocassion still does and I know she is tring it on because now and again her guard comes down and she will show me what she really can do.
A friend of mine with 50 years of experence said to me on the very first trek I took Stella on.
You have a good horse, Don't let any one else ride her for a couple of years.
Stella has come forward in leeps and bounds and I along with her. Only I ride her, she reacts different to women than men, but I am winning. I did not start winning with her untill I let Savannah go, and opened myself to Stella. They know if your emotions are some where else.
No it is not a lot of bull, meany a horse has been ruined by to meany owners that don't spend the time required with the horse and move it on because it is acting up. And men, even though we don't admit it, get attached to our horses. Hell some of us even like our wifes.
I once said to a friend of mine. I did not have an intermit relationship with my wife untill we were married, Did You?, he responded. Don't know, what is her maiden name. Kiwi sence of humour.