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post #411 of 29437 Old 02-24-2012, 01:38 PM Thread Starter
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post #412 of 29437 Old 02-24-2012, 02:12 PM
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All this talk about men and women not understanding each other reminds me of a series of programmes in the UK called 'Why Men Don't Iron.'

It was a series studying the difference in how the male/female brain works and was quite an eye opener.

The had a group of about 40 children aged about 6 years, non knew each other, and they were turned loose in a playground. Straight away the girls went to one side and the boys another. The girls were introducing themselves and chatting. The boys took all of two minutes before they were play fighting and generally playing rough.
Each group was given a kaleidoscope to look at. The girls formed a circle and passed it around. Some of the boys looked whilst others continued to play.

Another test was with a child wearing headphones, simultaneously they heard two different words, one in each ear. The girls could repeat both but boys only heard one.

Teaching was interesting. I know when I teach riding to boys it is very different to when I teach girls. At schools most teaching is geared to girls. If diagrams are drawn and a challenge in the form of a test is made by the teacher, boys do a lot better. The learn and understand better with diagrams than just by speech.

So it went on each week. The many differences are from a natural order rather than input from others.

Years ago at my nieces sports day I noticed that the boys threw naturally whist the girls found it much harder to A) get any distance and B) to throw straight! Guess it stems from the old days of the males bringing home the food!
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My husband has learned to understand me
I have learned to understand him too

He wants me to be happy
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My parents were married for 63 years and were very different to each other. How it lasted so long I do not know because there were times when Mum could have slowly strangled Dad but, only once did I ever hear them argue, when I was 14 and that was over a rescue dog (guess who instigated that one?)

Times were not always easy but we were grown in an atmosphere of no meaning no, and begging and pleading, whining and sulking only achieved a firmed NO and being teased for behaving so badly.

Laughter was to the fore. We laughed at each other and, more importantly at ourselves. Ourselves. Seeing the funny side of situations regardless. It has stood not only me but also my sister in good stead for our lives.

When I was 14 I had a bad fall from a mare. All I remember is watching this big brown and white butt descending towards me as I was against a tree having just come off, thinking "This is going to hurt!"
I had a broken nose. My teeth had gone right through my top lip, and my top teeth were knocked loose.
I rode back to the stables and stayed there all day.
I do not bruise easily but I do swell. My eyes were puffed, my nose swollen but I could still see my top lip turned inside out protruding from below my nose.

My sister and cousin were at the stables that day and they got indoors before me. Mum was cooking chips (fries) for our meal. She turned from the cooker with the fry basket in one hand and a plate under the basket in the other. When I walked in she took one look, put the plate and basket on the table, sat on her stool covering her face with both hands shaking with laughter and her comment was "Well, you won't be wanting vinegar on your chips will you?"
I was sent to the doctor, neither of my parents ever drove, to be patched up.
The surgery was closed and his wife answered my knock on the door.
She called out to her husband who was still in his surgery "Darling, it is Linda."
He retort was "Is it a kick, bite or fall?"

Guess they knew me well!

That is how injuries were dealt with, laugh at them and if you couldn't take them, stop riding. I will add, Mum was a brilliant nurse, I suffered with severe migraines all through my childhood and she tended to me as only a mother can, tirelessly day and night.

When Dad was taken ill and diagnosed as having had a stroke, he was in hospital and barely conscious. Mum took his hand and said "I have always loved you so much. I hope you know that."
He just squeezed her hand. Made my sister and I very tearful.

Dad died a few days later. He had not had a stroke but had a brain tumour, he was 92 and until the day before becoming ill, had been doing grocery shopping for less able people in the town and also delivering newspapers every morning.

As a child I was envious of friends whose parents could afford far more things for them. My father worked hard but was a low wage earner. As I have grown and heard tales from friends I realise that I had a rich childhood and life. Money is not important in comparison.
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My parents had been married for 57 years and I have never
Saw any abuse by either of them sure there were arguements
That was normal, mom and dad respected each other and loved each other

And when my mom passed away I saw a bit of my dad pass away too
He missed her every day until he was reunited with her 3 years later
And I miss my parents every day
These loving people took me in as a baby and raised me like their own

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My grandparents were married 65 years. My grandmother had a stroke in 95 and hasn't been able to speak since. They used to crack me up with the arguments they would have. He knew exactly what she was trying to say to him and he would yell at her and she would shake her fist and moan really loud. It was hilarious.

He died on veterans day last year and his funeral was the saddest one that I have ever attended. There was not a dry eye in the place, it wasn't only because it was my grandfather and the patriarch of the family, but because of the love they shared for each other. She sat at his casket and fixed his hair and she would put her hand on his shoulder as though she were trying to wake him up and when she cried it was this mornful wail that could just rip your heart out.

When the soldier handed her the flag, they were so chocked up that they barely got the words out and I've never seen a soldier cry at a funeral. In fact, when they did the 21 gun salute I looked back and they were crying.

He was a veteran of the Korean war and World War II. He retired just as Vietnam began, my dad and my uncle went.

She was 14 and he was 21 when they married. I told my husband that I want that. I want that kind of love. To be married for 65 years and to be that in love. I want that.

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This sounds wonderful...can I go out and open the gate for you sometime????

This is the closest I can get you to it

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Very cute indeed

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post #419 of 29437 Old 02-25-2012, 03:04 AM
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working the farm and forest

Originally Posted by trekpaard View Post
it is a dutch-brabanter (dutch/belgian)and a belgian-ardenner .
@ all - thank you for all nice photos here . It is wonderful to see what all the people here done . Is here anywhere who works with his/her horses in the wood or in the field ? Or make anywhere with the horses trekking tours ?
I don't have any horses that are able to pull the plows but I Do have an organic farm. (and a Dutch KWPN Warm-blood) I'd love to have horses that can do all the farm work like cutting hay, plowing, forestry clearing and all that. I always watch with wonder when they do the shows of working farm horses at the fair. That is one thing that I would LOVE to have horses for. I think that someday soon the fossil fuel will be gone and we may be back to horses for all this work. I'm so glad there are a few people like you keeping that tradition alive and well for the day that it will be needed again :)

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post #420 of 29437 Old 02-25-2012, 03:17 AM
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This is the closest I can get you to it
Loved it! All those sweet noses! When you're tired of kissing Ben, send him my way!

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