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post #4651 of 29437 Old 08-01-2012, 11:03 AM
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Jaydee -- That's how I would have handled it a year ago. Instead, I told him that he had hurt my feelings, and then asked him for something positive. He was clueless.

He told me I was "too sensitive" .. and maybe so.

Or maybe he needs me to need him and that particular day I showed him I didn't.. but I don't want to get off on assuming his motives.

I mean ... I know I was fabulous .. why should it bother me when he blows me off.. lol. Right? But it does.

Thanks guys .. ya'll were great yesterday when I needed the affirmation!

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post #4652 of 29437 Old 08-01-2012, 11:52 AM
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That was the 3rd load?!? And you unloaded the first 2 by yourself & got all 3 loads on the truck on your own-Well, I would have been expecting more from him also. Sounds like you saved a ton of money by doing that-I think a dinner out would have been nice, or at the least, call for a pizza-if you guys like that.
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post #4653 of 29437 Old 08-01-2012, 11:53 AM
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That was the second load.. I had already loaded and unloaded the first load.

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post #4654 of 29437 Old 08-01-2012, 01:00 PM
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A good place to vent

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Jaydee -- That's how I would have handled it a year ago. Instead, I told him that he had hurt my feelings, and then asked him for something positive. He was clueless.

He told me I was "too sensitive" .. and maybe so.

Or maybe he needs me to need him and that particular day I showed him I didn't.. but I don't want to get off on assuming his motives.

I mean ... I know I was fabulous .. why should it bother me when he blows me off.. lol. Right? But it does.

Thanks guys .. ya'll were great yesterday when I needed the affirmation!
I swear my husband still expects me to have the same amount of energy and strength that I had 27 years ago when we first got together but I have to make allowances for his aches & pains
It hurts because we love them and expect better. As you say - they can be clueless. Mine usually has no idea why I've gone into a 'mood' yet to me its something that really matters
Have a good moan here and move on. He might even realise in a week or two and feel bad about it!!!!
And you are wonderful - I would never have done all that on my own
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post #4655 of 29437 Old 08-01-2012, 01:12 PM
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texasgal, I am really impressed too! People can be real jerks.
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post #4656 of 29437 Old 08-01-2012, 03:46 PM Thread Starter
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good afternoon everyone Just got on
Having problems with my laptop
So hubby fixed it for now
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post #4657 of 29437 Old 08-01-2012, 04:47 PM
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Texasgirl He would be moving all the bales and had to get his own supper!
My mother would never argue, she just gave the silent treatment. If you said "That was a lovely dinner." She would just say "Good." No conversation. She always won!
We would all be grovelling to get her back to normal. LOL

Susan Glad it has worked out for you and your mare. Sounds a lovely home.

CW You are certainly being tested!

Mum is going to stay for another week. She is enjoying the company. It gives my sister a break too. She was going to go back on Friday and then when I suggested she stay for another few days she jumped at the chance.
It has upset my routine quite a lot (understatement) I try to cook for her a lunchtime and she has a snack in the evening.
Conversation tonight. "Mum do you want something to eat?"
"No thanks, I'm not hungry."
I go down and make her a sandwich, smoked salmon pate. Take it up to her.
It takes all of three minutes.
"Oh, thank you, I was getting peckish."
A few minutes later I take her a slice of cheesecake, with cream, and that is also eaten.

If you asked her she would say she hadn't eaten since lunch time.

She is busy watching National Geo. Channel whilst busy knitting a child's sweater. I am deafened as she refuses to wear a hearing aid.

I have started the two children riding. The lad is very uncertain because he lacks confidence in himself. We have to keep his lessons private. He does not want anyone to watch. Little 'un couldn't care. She was riding without stirrups as I didn't have any small enough to fit her. She was merrily trotting holding on with one hand, pulling the front of the saddle off the horse's back so she was leaning back and she never bounced at all.
The lad was as good and he did really well. I enjoy teaching.

Not a lot of news, all the horses are back in work so butts are stiff and sore!
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Yes I am being tested but that is fine lol

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post #4659 of 29437 Old 08-02-2012, 12:37 AM
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Hi all!

Texas - HUGE pat on the back from me, I can't even move one bale let alone truckloads! You rock girl!! Men can just be clueless, it's just part of their nature. (sorry Stan and jfmny) When DH gets like that, I am pretty vocal about what pisses me off. Sometimes it helps, most of the time not LOL.

Rode today, it went really well. I even put my son up on her for the first time, huge smiles. He's had 5 lessons now on 5 different horses, and is doing wonderfully. Is even posting on the correct diagonal! Kes at first wanted to take advantage of him, so I clipped on the lunge line, and he wanted to trot, so he did. He then told me he has horses in his blood. AHHHHHHH warms a horse mom's heart. Told hubby at dinner that he got to ride Kes, hubby was really impressed that he rode her, and that I shared her. I was really proud of both my horse for doing so well with him, and my son for having the courage to want to ride her, he knew she was hot under saddle and still wanted to try.
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post #4660 of 29437 Old 08-02-2012, 12:39 AM
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CW - can't wait to hear about tomorrow!!!!

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