I love this thread. I just turned 52 and was out of horses for more than 20 years. I wasn't as sensible you others, when I was horse hunting. Bought a qh stallion that "could ride". Right. First of all, the stallions I used to take care of were sweetie pies compared to Archer. He really had my number and took my confidence right away from me. I was sooo in over my head with him.
I sold him, bought a Morgan/Appy cross mare that was good. After two years (yes, two years) we still hadn't really bonded. She was a nice horse, just didn't click with me. I sold her and bought a young coming 3 yo who could lead, had nice ground manners and that was all. He and I clicked from the first time I touched his face. I taught him to ride and in a month, I'll take him to a trusted trainer to finish him. I feel I'm out of my depth with reining and finishing him. We get along great, he's all of that and a bag of chips, in my book. I have taken him to 2 desensitsing clinics and he's a star! He absolutely loves bridges. Funny guy. As has been mentioned, my muscles have been sore and I have to get back in shape. Teddy is a Fresian/Appy/Percheron cross. Not real tall, but quite stout, as you can imagine -see the pictures. (he makes my butt look small) I never thought I could train him, and any other horse it might not have worked. But he's super calm and very trusting of me. Thank God. After the Archer debacle, I wasn't sure I wanted to get another horse. Turns out I'm really glad I did. It took a few tries, but I found the right one. Good luck Country Woman and With Grace. There is a soul-mate out there for you both. I think it was fun to "horse shop". Don't rush, just enjoy the ride.
Looking at the trail through the ears of my horse...wonderful!