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        04-15-2013, 08:28 PM
      #7941
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    Last one on this subject...

    I came to post one last time on the subject of the lady changing her mind on the horse ...I kinda came to grips with the change of plans as the day progressed....then sat down for "cocktail hour" with DH...as we didn't see each other this weekend...and I was able to tell(and he was ready to listen 😉) about the situation. He got me bit fired up...I'm in the angry faze....but ready to let it rest, I talked about it and lamented over the utterly confusing situation for long enough and am ready to let it go.....and move on...

    In fact, I was getting into the mindset that maybe only having one would be ok, and I would let the search for a second horse be done for a while......

    Until I get another email from my seller.....she knew I was disspointed she contacted a few people she knows and found a horse closer to where I live....a college girl wanting to get rid of her horse.....it is a show horse /trail horse....more of what I am used to....maybe a better fit!?!?!

    I feel a bit jaded at this moment, and don't know what to feel or know what to do......as my aunt Betty always said, if in doubt, don't ....at least in this case, not yet.....hmmmmm

    Thoughts?

    I never thought finding or choosing a horse would be so difficult.....but like someone said....it's somewhat like choosing a DH.....😵😆
         
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        04-15-2013, 09:13 PM
      #7942
    Trained
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    Originally Posted by NickerMaker71    

    I never thought finding or choosing a horse would be so difficult.....but like someone said....it's somewhat like choosing a DH.....����
    It's easier to rehome the horse than it is the DH ..................
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        04-15-2013, 10:51 PM
      #7943
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    Hunter, the video clip didn't work for me. Do you have any suggestions for me? Glad your arm is healing up and keep an eye on the pain. If it gets hot or really really tender or red you might be getting an infected vein from a clot...those can be dangerous so keep an eye on it!

    Nicker, I think this is really odd about the seller turning you down, too, but I have a sort of middle-of-the-fence thought about it. First of all, she may know the KMH might not be mentally suited for both disciplines (show & trail), or she may know from personal experience that the horse is difficult to trained for a new discipline. She also may not have a clue about natural horsemanship principles, or may have seen one of the hundred variants of NH that looked like whacking on a horse. So.... we all see things through our own filters and perhaps your positive experiences with NH and 'showing' is very different from the experiences she has had with tightly wrapped show people (or, God forbid, those who show gaited horses in weighted shoes or pads). So, as Koolio said, I don't think this is about you as much as it is probably about what the seller assumes about showing and NH training, etc. or perhaps what she knows about this particular horse's disposition and history.

    I have a 15 year old TWH mare who camee to me as a finished trail horse. I made her crazy the first year or so that I had her, trying to do things with her that were different from how she had been trained. Fast forward -- now I have finally realized that the NH training for ME has made me a better horsewoman which has made her an even better trail horse (because she trusts me and we can communicate better), and I've learned a lot more about how she learns, which is very different from my other horses.

    So, sorry for the long novel, but I think there might be reasonable explanations for why the seller was cautious. I think they may largely be based on misunderstandings about the broad meaning of NH and how you intend to apply it....and not undersatnding that NH is foundation training, not show training or trail training per se. And, since it appears that she's kept her word to you about looking around for another horse, you have choices as to whether you want to take the next step and see this new horse. At the very least, she knows people who have good horses, right? I would consider whether the lady was as honest as you need her to be, and respectful of you as you need her to be, to continue working with her. As upset as you were, you did still make it sound as if she may have been trying to be both honest and respectful, as well as giving her best opinion as to what these horses (the first one and the new one) could do for you. Trust your gut - you may not be ready to look again yet and that's okay.
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        04-16-2013, 01:51 AM
      #7944
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    Originally Posted by Stan    
    Enough of the old if you don't mind.

    Now hurting your neck just by doing what is normal. You may be closer to our age than you think. Welcome.
    I hate you Stan it's that simple.
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        04-16-2013, 02:09 AM
      #7945
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    [QUOTE=Roadyy;2235481]WithGrace,

    I'm glad you had such a great time loading, traveling and winning this weekend. You two look really good together in that pic.


    Stan,
    Its good to see wet horses at your place even if it seems like a light misting effect. Hope there is more coming for you before it there is too much damage.

    How often do you get to take Bugs out to put miles under his belt? I had the same type of issue with the mares I used to have for riding, but so much more enjoy riding the geldings I have now.


    I have not had Bugs out as much as I could, but I can get out each weekend and after work at night. A large farm that goes around our place with access to the ocean beach is a nice ride. A round trip is 10 miles of mixed forest paddock and beach, the beach being the only flat area so they get a good work out and it takes around 3 hours. Not many men riding here and I have to admit I get a little tired of the mares, no pun intended ladies. Well not rearly. I have to admit I seem to be warming to Bugs more so than Stella but she is a good horse she just prefers others to me For the life of me I can not understand why, and have no doubt some one will enlighten me

    Rain, it did not turn out to be what was forcast but its wet the ground and signals a change is on its way. We just need the temp to stay up for a few weeks to take advantage of the water with growth.
         
        04-16-2013, 02:19 AM
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    Originally Posted by Hunter65    
    Wow Roady lucky you (and your horses).

    Stan I pay $525 board and while it would help in a mortgage we have looked at buying our own place. We have a mortgage on our townhouse here in town and are trying to sell our 10 acres about 3.5 hrs out of town but even then we are looking at $1,000,000 for a livable 5 acre property any where within 45 mins of the city. Prices here are outrageous.

    With Grace awesome news on the show and good on you for trailering.

    Nicker so sorry about the horse, I would be devastated too. I think its really odd that she had that excuse. I think if you are willing to try natural horsemanship (or whatever) is a good thing. It means you are trying to do the best for the horse ya know? At least you want to try something.

    Oh yeah, arm still lumpy and now sore as feeling is coming back.

    A mil for 5 acres with accommodation. For that you could buy 200 acres and house in my area.
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        04-16-2013, 02:34 AM
      #7947
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    I hate you Stan it's that simple.

    You liked my post, and I would curse at you more if I could. Dammit
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        04-16-2013, 02:46 AM
      #7948
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    Originally Posted by AlexS    
    You liked my post, and I would curse at you more if I could. Dammit
    Welcome to my world. I often forget my curse words. I know how you feel. Dammit
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        04-16-2013, 06:50 AM
      #7949
    Green Broke
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    Originally Posted by Stan    
    A mil for 5 acres with accommodation. For that you could buy 200 acres and house in my area.
    I was thinking the same thing. I know it's all about regional markets and property 15 miles south of me that runs along the coast has price tags like that. Drive 15 miles north to where I live and you can purchase the 13 acres(that I posted pics of),3bd,2 ba brick house and a pretty nice double ended shop for just over 300k.

    I am in an old farm house in really good shape that is 4bd,3 ba, 2400sq ft with 5 acres and a pond and can get it for less than 200k.


    I'm 18 miles from my work place and love the drive in, not so much the traffic drive out. Albeit I still like knowing I'm driving out to the country compared to driving the 3.6 miles home where we were before finding this place.
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        04-16-2013, 09:46 AM
      #7950
    Trained
    In south Georgia, you can buy land for $2,000 an acre any day of the week. You can shop around and find nice land for half that. This is true for tracks that are 50 acres or more. You would likely pay more per acre for 5 acres.
         

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