AlexS I take my hat off to you for what you put up with. I have to deal with them after they get released from prison and try and install some self respect. If they don't respect themselves there is no way they will resect others. That young one needs a lot of effort from any adult. I could feel the want in me to wipe the smile off his face. But we are not allowed to do that.
I take a hard line with boys and tell them only once, if they ignore me its gone. My own used to have an issue with keeping their rooms tidy. I warned them only once. If its left on the floor you lose it. The next day I piled everything that was on their bedroom floor in a bag and donated it.
Was Stella doped in that pic, what's the story?
I hear you Stan. I've been at this long enough that as soon as he was calling me ma'am my eye brows were up in my head. I don't get kids who say that, so they are playing a game. Then he doesn't like video games and likes to bake - oh purlease. These kids are not here for being angels.
For sure they can change, but they don't come to me good, unless they have been with another good foster parent, and this might be awful to say, but many foster parents don't care. A few do though, the rest should be working in fast food.
I don't ride western, but this isn't my first rodeo, laugh. The more good they are at first, the worst kids they are. Am on it.
The problem with giving the kids one chance, is that the better kids slip up, and they have earned more than that. I have a rule, I ask once, raise my voice the second time, yell the third. I think it's important to be consistent as their parents were not. (unless it's really bad, then the rule is off, but for day to day stuff I use the rule). The bad kids all let me get to stage 2, to push. I don't know how to manage that and be fair to the good kids who are having an off day. I need to be consistent with all so I am not favoring any over others (I do but the kids don't see it).
I want to wipe the smile off his face too. It's hard with ****ty little kids who think they have it all down. Brad struggles with that more, especially when the turd disrespects me, that's when the neighbors hear it all as he is loud.
It's one thing to take in these kids and at first we forgive everything as they didn't have parents, were hungry, were sexually abused etc. And then it's quite another when they punch a man in the face in a costume. Assuming it was a man, it might have been a lady. I don't know.
Stan wanna switch jobs, I'd like to be a PO. Right now I work 24/7. That's disputed, but I'd call it. When the kids are in school, I am off work, until the office or the school calls. When they are in bed, I am off, until they fight or runaway. I feel like I work 24/7 with some on call time.