Ok, so I rarely express my opinions on here or in "real" life, as I often don't feel I am thoroughly informed enough to give an intelligent response.....but I am today....
First for those possibly offended on gender comments....as I read I never felt there was any sex bashing, just fun banter...and honestly...it's 2013 and not even sure if there really IS gender bias anymore in this day and age.....at least not in my small piece of the world.
Next, TJ I've been reading you posts, and all the wonvpderful responses...we do have great people here, don't we? I guess what I hear you saying is that you are just plain old scared to hop back on...is that correct? Here is a thought....as the horse world can be VERY intimidating, especially starting out later in life, which I believe you are....instead of taking lessons right away what about going to a dude ranch type place, renting a horse for an hour or two or three and just RIDE for the PURE PLEASURE of riding!!!! Simply get back into the saddle, ride without worry ( those horses at rent-a-horse are usually bomb proof) and see if you get that little twing of excitement in the pit of your belly....GROW your confidence by just BEING in the saddle....no body there to 'critique' your seat (as would take place in a lesson) and RIDE, ride, ride, ride, ride.....do it a couple times...and THEN make the decision if you want to pursue this whole thing again!
I've been there TJ, getting back in the saddle is VERY scary...but starting off with pure FUN may be the way to go!!
NEwdad, yes, being the horse world can be very clickish and very OPINIONATED...but like everyone else said, talk to TONS of people, keep your mind open to what EVERYONE has to say, and then piece that information together to fit who YOU and your family are! Again, like I previously told TJ, I think sometimes we forget why we often got into horses....their beauty and the serenity that they bring to ur lives. Is so easy to get caught up in the Drama of barn politics, competing, buying end that we simply forget.....our horses!!
That being said, I can't remember who it was that shows here...I can picture your icon, but can't remember your name....but I do recall you saying you don't have time to trail ride bc of all the practicing for your competitions. Food for thought, as when I competed, I too would be gone every weekend for an event....BUT, for the good of the horse ( I know my QH just loved a trek) after our time in the ring, which was often a good hour or so, I would take her out in the field or dirt roads and ride! She LOVED it, as she did the competition....but it seemed to make her relax, and definitely desensitized her to the environment. She was a SUPER horse. In addition, it was a time for me to unwind and center myself.
Those are just my random thoughts....I'm at a good place currently, at least in my own horse world(don't know how long it will last
) and I've been going or have gone through many of these stressful, questionable situations in the horse world. I'm kinda liking the quietness of our one horse barn right now!! I am still searching for #2, but am enjoy being the herd leader of Rainn. She depends on me more now that she is alone, and follows me through the field.( I know it's only bc I have potential treats
). But it's fun! I fear when we get another, that dynamic will change like when we had 'sassy pants'. THAT was NOT fun...she was so unpredictable I feared for my and rainn's safety while out in the field.....I digress.....
To sum up....I hope everyone today takes the time to JUST BE with their horses.....take time to remember why you fell in love with horses to begin with....the whole majesty of it all!
I for one am going for a ride, and I may also just take a bucket out into the field and simply sit.....the sun is bright and warm....a perfect day to do just that......BE!
Have a happy day all!!