So with my "down time" I have started to take my wife's kick in the butt and go a few things. That means NOT on the puter and on my butt. I've been down for over 6 months of doing the minimum waiting to feel good again. I guess that ain't going to happen in full so .... time to move on and adjust as best that I can.
Some great photos and banter. I have "peeked" in just a little.
The water company never did show up regarding none in the pastures. Dug up the lines and replace sections and have water now. I have to go back to.... at 61 I can pee with more force then what I have from the city.
Hay? I'm down to 1.5 bails and have 4 people working to find me some. I'd hire a night guard for watch the horses in the pastures, but not much left there either. WE THINK that we have a line for .... THREE HUNDRED bails at about twice the price and it's a take all situation. FINE! I'll corner that dang Hay market and make money. 300 be danged, I'll order 1200 and buy the new ranch with what I make.
We were all set to go to Santo Domingo, 5 hour drive, to up-date all our legal stuff. Double checked with our Atty. There and.... it's a holiday. Half a day working that out and changing hotel, bus, Atty and Amado to stay at here.
Wife has her .... ahhh..... ahhhh. Saw the ... ahhh. Her face lift is scheduled and I'm needing more hay to sell to make some money to pay for it.
Sereno's Mr. Happy is doing MUCH better but... dang diaper rash is NOT going away. We have called the Santo Domingo Vet to travel the 5 hours to check him and our PG mare and recommend a plan for her. I think that Sereno now LIKES Mr. Happy treatments every morning.
Still working on the stables and looking at such a ridicules plan to buy it... that it may work? (Pay his beer tab every month?)
OK... I've been busy getting back to DOING and that feels good... but it takes a lot out of me and will take time.
OH.... AHD. Nice that you are sharing, learning and doing.
I have to take a moment and talk about my ride today. To just briefly reveiw, Isabella is my first horse. When I bought her, she was touted as a beginner safe horse. When I first rode her, I actually had broken ribs from a very bad fall off of a "free" horse that I had on a trial basis. I needed a confidence builder and paid good money for Isabella.
Once I got her home, she was not the same horse I had ridden twice at her previous owner's home. These are very well respected trainers so there was no way she was drugged. Then I figured it out!! I had been drugged when I tested her out both times. Vicodin...and a good amount of it. I had been totally relaxed and Isabella responded in kind.
Once my ribs started to heal and I stopped taking the pain pills, I was a nervous wreck every time I mounted up. She sensed it and responded in kind!
It took 5 weeks of lessons for me to find some sort of confidence. She still tests me and knows that if she refuses to do something, that I think twice before making her do it. So, we are still a work in progress.
I recently started doing more ground work with her before I mount and yesterday and today were amazing.
We have always had a problem with her refusing to walk away from the hitching post or darting back to it. Last night we were able to ride past it with no issues.
And then today we had a major milestone. We went on the trail all by ourselves. She didn't hestitate at all. I sang to her to keep relaxed and she was so calm. When we came out of the trail, one of the trainers saw us and gave me a thumbs up! Very happy right now!
Tj, I hope you read this. If you really want to ride, I would find a trainer to give you confidence building lessons. I have reached a point with my horse that I once felt was impossible. I learn to love her and riding more each day. You can too!
Only you know what you and your's relationship is. So it is very difficult to suggest or recommend anything. But... I'm a married guy for over 35 years and WE talked, planned, accommodated together. We... we did "trade off's" that most of the time meant that we worked things out to do them together. After a few years, "trade off's" didn't work; it became a score card that every store/city/jewelry store won but we didn't. We needed to understood each others needs and did so including no problem covering for the other.
Dear. It took a lot of time for us, raising children and building or work. What it took was breaking down MY stubborn walls...AND hers. We talked. And we started and have been talking ever since.
My above post about... someone coming to visit? NO real problem. A surprise but an changed my plans but... a good time overall.
TELL HIM.... what's in you'r head and heart in an even tone but... with some force behind it.
CS, hope your talk went well...but I must agree with Sereno...all relationships are different, and need handled differently......what wporks for us....not usually yelling, although that sometimes does occur.....but when I approach my DH with "I" statements.....and tell him from the heart how I feel, and instead of accusing him (you statements) of being......whatever, things run a heck of a lot smoother.....he hears me at least. When I accuse, he puts a wall up and doesnt hear what I am saying.....There is NO convo then!!
As for the silent treatments.....that's what my father would do to my mother and I (3 months was the longest). Not a fan......doesn't accomplish anything.....we NEVER knew what was irking him!!!!!
Have been reading posts from past 2 days. Much good wishes to all. AlexiS, didn't mean to offend you; smoke 'em if you got 'em,when you have to. I don't have the answer. Corgi, thanks for the boost today. Have had no responses from CraigsList, but didn't really expect any (took me, on CraigsList, 2 yrs to sell a very nice English saddle, barely used; finally went to an 11 y/o daughter of a firefighter, @ bargain basement price of $200, including some tack & books/videos/dvds. All good). In a google-search 2 days ago for instructor/beginning rider quotes, found thumbtack.com. Got 2 responses, 1 I offed, but the other I responded to. In Commerce City (hr round trip), Instructor may have Monday lessons here & there beginning in June for $50. She's certified Natural Horsemanship, PATH therapeutic (not sure what that is, & Parelli's-style-Natural is under dispute, from what I've read in the past,but sounds kinda cool to me, but, am too green to know this stuff). So, anyway, responded to the spaghetti-on-wall, & will see what happens. There is a lift in my gut "I can do this, I want to do this", almost like I got up & mounted. My 2 past lessons were undoubtedly beneficial, the last 1 was good. Still, getting on & just feeling how good/right it all is right now, that's the 1st goal. NickerMaker, I have had in mind your suggestion of a basic trail ride, like a tourist; that's still in mind. I just need to get back on, & even if this SkyViewAcres) thing works out, I still want to do that (did it once, Western saddle, way up in the hills above Golden CO, not long after my crash; took the far ride intead of the easier one along the low hills; way up, saw cougar tracks in the snow, did 2 stream crossings, up & down. Cowboys when I dismounted laughed @ my awkwardness; my left ankle had frozen up in a charleyhorse(being full of metal & pins), & my pelvis was screaming (having been busted up & not too far removed from fixator-removal). All ok. I went on a trail-ride way too fast. They had no idea, I just needed to do what I had to do. 9 yrs later, I just need that courage back.
Yeah TJ, happy to hear your thoughts!! Now that you mention all your hardware....I now totally understand you being frightened......I was in anutomobile accident 20'years. Ago....my family said NO HORSES!!!! They also put the fear of god in me about getting reinjured....no one wants more surgeries. BUT, I am a bit stubborn, and would ride every chance I got...once or twice a year.....somehow....five months ago....I bought a horse! LOL. Now looking for a second. Scared? You bet!! Learning to have my confidence back?? Everyday! I was blessed with an old girl who is as gimpy as me! We ride well together!!! :). Best of luck to you!!!! :)