How can I explain this to my mom without sounding rude?

:( *sigh* apperantly my mom was really involved in my riding when I was young, till I had a really bad fall when I was 8 and she swore off riding... whenever she had to take me to the barn because my dad was busy, she would groan all the way and not step foot out of the car....
It's changed a little since then, she's kind of a little bit more okay with me riding, but still... I'm with FGR..

If he's collected he'll stop collecting himself, then look over. Also, he tries to go towards the gate to see if my mom has any treats. It's not the whole disctration part that really bugs me for I know he has to get used to it, but she does it at the worst times. Sonny is still getting used to me as his owner, and rider and will test me. The minute I get him going great, my mom talks, then he gets distracted. Once I get his mind back on me, he tests me again.

It can be dangerous at times I guess if she talks when he is cantering...if he isn't paying attention to his job then he gets clumbsy, and then he trips. Two times I thought he was going to flip over on me when he tripped, but thankfully he is always good at regaining his footing

(In responce to my mom being there in general)

I mean, I like my mom being there, but she can be a push over with animals sometimes. For example if I was trying to get Sonny to collect himself and kept bugging him and bugging him until he'd do it, she'd say I was being too "mean" and should stop.
Another example (never will happen due to my mom won't lead Sonny anywhere, but if she would I could almost predict it would happen). If my mom was leading Sonny up to the upper pasture, and he decides he'd rather eat grass. Instead of telling him no that isn't her plans, she'd let him munch all day long if he wanted to.
Also, she loves to feed him. I'm trying to take pounds off of him (he's chubby) and she keeps feeding him and giving him more hay.

She likes to spoil animals, and at times I agree you should give them lots of love and treats, but she's already ruined one of our dogs...he's so spoiled that if someone tells him what to do without having a treat, he'll growl and threaten to bite.

Sonny is at least 1200 pounds. I CAN'T risk him getting as spoiled as the one dog and acting like that.

In light of all that I would say you just need to sit her down and tell her how you feel. A horse can become just as spoilt as a dog I guess so yeah, I agree now that you should talk to her. Just try and explain it from the horses point of view rather than saying it annoys you. If she is such a sucker for animals then she wont want to do anything that is potentially going to mess him up in one way or another. Good luck :)

thanks Jazzy I will definitely do that.

Start off by letting her know how much you appreciate how INVOLVED she is...cleaning up droppings and giving love. Then break it to her easy that you are concerned that her distractions could be dangerous. End everything with a hug and an "I love you Mommy!" and you will be fantastic!

Sonny I wan't trying to say that your a mean kid! If that's how I came across I'm very sorry.

But I'm a thru and thru momma's girl and that's just how I feel. I understand that not everyone is like that.

Yeah! I agree, also I talk to moo if scary/distracting stuff is happening, so then she is focused and relaxed by my voice and eventually forgets completely

Oh didn't see the second page, just ignore me

Ask her not to do it, and then ignore her. You and your horse need to get used to distractions if you ever want to show or even concentrate on your work.