Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: British Columbia
I second KountryPrincess' point. Some horses can 'lick' without getting mouthy in the same way some can be hand fed. Jackson occasionally licks me, and also gets hand fed cookies. But he isn't pushy or mouthy- at the first sign of disrespectful behaviour all hand fed treats will be cut off and the behaviour will be corrected, but I don't see that happening in the near future. The thing is... Jackson also licks his buckets, the fence, gate, horse trailer, etc. I'm not 100% sure what 'licking' means to a horse, and I'm sure it can mean different things to different horses (submission, grooming, mouthy testing behaviour).
The thing that concerns me about your post is your attitude along with some of the other details. Most of what you find on the internet is true (in reputable places) a HUGE chunk of it is not, and it seems to me that you're not looking at any good, reputable sources. You seem like a young girl who is very naive in the whole 'horse ownership' category, and unfortunately like an accident waiting to happen. Your horse does not love you in a human sense, and the licking, combined with your horse 'protecting' you tells me that your horse may not respect you very much. Horses protect the weaker ones in the herd, and just as often lash out at the weaker ones to put them in their place. I think you need to find a good trainer who can help sort you out and establish some general respect with your animal (along with getting your horse to respect OTHER people, it's very dangerous to have a 'one man horse').